To DiDi

Submitted by Hope (United Kingdom), Jun 10, 2019 at 14:36

Please get on that plane and go home to the support of your family and friends. You are in a vulnerable position, need some familiar people around you that know you well, love you, you can trust, will not judge you and can wrap their arms around you to comfort you. Something came up on my Facebook page the other day - "You will never get the truth out of a Narcissist. The closest you will ever come is a story that either makes them the victim or the hero, never the villain". These words are so true DiDi - please believe me. And they were very apt at the time as my ex husband who walked out on me in 2014 after gaining his Indefinite Leave to Remain contacted me out of the blue - they do not change. I do not know what he wants but clearly he wants something (!), I will not be speaking to him again but let me just say he continues to try and manipulate me, play me, lie to me even now after what he put me through all those years ago. I'd say Karma has kicked in if any of what he said is true but I cannot trust h so I will never know.

The past is in the past for a reason and there it must stay. You have to take care of yourself now and the child growing inside you. This is a very hard situation for you but do not be blindsided by sweet words. Actions speak louder than words. Words are cheap. Please listen to some of us who have been through similar experiences and have a look at narcissistic behaviour online if you are able. Educate yourself on the behaviours and do not end up broken by the deceit and betrayal that could follow.

Take Care of both of you DiDi. Stay safe.

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