My little history with muslim man

Submitted by Jules M (Spain), Dec 19, 2018 at 07:47

my name is Julietta and I'd like to tell my experience so that you dont make the same mistakes that I made.

I am spanish, raised by a super christian family and I was also. But one day I met a boy in a forum called fanpop. I was young at that age. His name was Shayan Umair and he was Pakistani. We started talking, he sent millions of pics of himself (of course I was handsome, or at least I had lot of photoshop) I'd never met anyone like him. He fascinated me. At first he was so kind with me, he explained to me his religion and said he was so open minded. after two months he said to me: I love you, I love you as I have never loved anyone and I will love you forever. I called angel, I told him that I was his angel. I was stupid and I believed him. And I loved him. I gave him my heart, even if it was online. We talked about getting married, I would go to his country and he told me that he would be a good muslim and a good mother for his children.

There were problems with me traveling there so he said that if I couldnt, he'd come here, that while I was in his arms everything would be fine. He told me to ask for the Visa at pakistani embassy and I belived that I wanted to come here and marry me (such a fool i was). I would have gotten into a burka for him. I made thousands of follies for him. I showed him my heart and he took advantage of it. Never loved me coz he was doing same thing to other girls in other chats and with millions of more accounts.

When I found out that I was just one of the thousands I had deceived, I couldnt bear it. He used me to talk about sex and little else. I asked him why and he just laughed at me, and then he suddenly changed. I was not the sweet boy and romantic boy anymore, he showed me his real face. I made me feel small, like an unusable object. I did not eat, I didnt sleep, I spent whole nights crying. He threatened me psycologically: sending me pics of "cut arm" when i was about to leave him, telling me I was taking drugs and drinking for me, pretending being his family to convince me I was good, he threatened me with commit suicide leaving me when i didnt please his demands. he even sent me screen shots telling other girls same he said to me to watch me suffer. He said: if u love me stop wearing shorts, dont speak to boys, dont go to smming pools and parties, stay away from freinds ... I said that i had to dress with burka if i came to pakistan bc if i didnt it would be unrespectful with his people, cook for him, not even have a job. And all this in name of islam, when quran doesnt permit this kind of things. In my own country this kind of behavior is punished with jail bc thats abuse.

Then we broke up and left and I had a bad time, I hated him and his religion so badly but I finally understood that it was not worth crying for someone like him, it was not worthing hating someone who doesnt care and not worthing hating his religion bc his got the blame, not his religion. I overcame it little by little, recovering my old life and reading and informing myself about lots of things and now im completely healed. im trying to help other women in same situation, so that they find the way and dont believe in muslim online men lies. I also help women at shelters for violence against women as a volunteer, write for many blogs about this and about feminism ..

The funniest thing is that he still sends love messages to me and he thinks i'll be back someday bc what belongs to him, belongs to him forever. (now he is the fool beliving that he knows how every woman works) I got him figured out, he just needs control girls.

I know that if you are in love you are blind and you only see what you want to see, but please, do not trust them right away.

They are desperate men to need seducing women to get money or cybersex, just bc they dont have this. Those guys have no future and have all the time in the world to waste it online with women. They are too hypocratic, they call us simple and whores and the only thing they want is sleep with those "whores"

Still, I have to thank him for something. I have matured and made me so strong lady. I have made me understand how much my freedom worths.

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