Dear Lorna, drop this crook, and do not look back!!!

Submitted by LANA(USA) (United States), Oct 2, 2018 at 15:58

10/02/18
Response to Lorna on being hoovered back and being mad at herself for that.

Dear Lorna
Drop him like hot potato!!!!
Consider yourself blessed if he is out of your life!!!!
How dare that piece of cr...p to bother you with his problems,after what he said?!?!?
Besides-in the Middle East it is considered shameful to bring up your financial problems to a woman who is not your relative.Usually it is a men in the family who come together to help with finances,so why he thinks it is ok to ask you for it? Why he dares to disrespect you that way?
Why do you feel obligated to help stranger who is dare to wipe his feet off you?!?!?
Just ask yourself will you allow such behavior from a man from your culture?I don't think so!!!!
So what makes this crook so special?
Does he treats you well?Does he respects you?NO!
PLEASE STAY NO CONTACT,DELETE HIM FROM ANY SOCIAL MEDIA,FREEZE YOUR ACCOUNT IF NEEDED,CROSS HIM OFF YOUR LIFE FOR GOOD!!!! EVEN IF IT HURTS AS HELL AND FEELS LIKE YOU ARE GOING TO FALL APART-YOU WILL NOT!!!!
He wants to have you back just to use you again in any which way he dares to,and then -dump you,to show that he is in charge of when to break up this so-called "relationship" and it is his decision,not yours!
SO BETTER BE THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY,than one who got dumped.
IF YOU KEEP LOOKING BACK YOU WILL NOT BE ABLE TO SEE WHAT IS AHEAD.So do not look back!!!There will be people in your life who will not make it to your future and it is ok!
It was a reason for it,to leave that space ,so that something better can come up !!!!

Don't get mad at yourself for falling back,because if you did break no contact rule, it was just to prove to yourself again that you were right when you left him ,because he is a jerk!!!!

So get mad at him and give him a boot !!!!

Get this dirty rotten good-for-nothing,scoundrel out of your life!!!

I wrote this -many times in my posts earlier-that mine did contacted me again,he even dared to mention God and wanted to hoover me back,saying of how much he missed me and that he went to his country and brought me a present,and so on.I did not bother to respond,so that the next day he wrote:"Dismissed".(Like I ever care at all))))For mine-option "second chance"-was successfully disabled!))) He was dismisses a while ago,like he never ever existed.
it is funny of how hard he tries now to hover me back,»dancing on the wire",saying the things I wanted to hear....And I have absolutely no feelings for him,laughing at his so predictable and immature behavior.

Love is a verb,it is a will to give and not to take from the loved one.
If you do not see it in his actions and not words then he is an illusion in your head of how things could be but never was,and-trust me-never will be.So let go of this illusion and move on,he is not worth it!!!

Let that clown out of your life,let him perform for somebody else.
Learn to love and respect yourself and do not let absolutely no one to belittle you in any ways!

We are here for you if you need advice and support!

Please,be good to yourself!!!
Hugs!
LANA

P.S. There is a good resource on YouTube channel called SoulGPS -it is very helpful!

Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Original writing only, please. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. Reasoned disagreement is welcome but not comments that are scurrilous, off-topic, commercial, disparaging religions, or otherwise inappropriate. For complete regulations, see the "Guidelines for Reader Comments".