Empty threats...mine did the same 5 years ago

Submitted by Chelsea, Sep 10, 2018 at 17:54

It has been 5 years and I did live in fear for a while. I did secure myself to a different location, however, my address was sitting overseas. After I moved I never let him know even though every 6 months he would come at me with a new facebook acct through messenger. After the ignoring and blocking....he finally gave up and moved on. The last thing he did, which was narc behavior was to message my best friend and bad mouth me. She just simply blocked and ignored. That was in January. Her brother works for Homeland Security, so they got the goods on him already. The last facebook acct he opened, I reported him so he was afraid (coward) to come at me again.

I am not afraid anymore. He took enough of my emotions....he can't have anymore. He can have any woman he wants but not me. He really lost out. Big time. That is what I want and wish for you to believe about yourself.

They are liars and desperate. He is manipulating you through fear. If he does not know your address...then why worry? I knew that my rat knew people here in the US. But after 5 years ...if it ain't happened it ain't gonna. If someone wants to come at me...bring it. I am prepared but not afraid. Do not give him that kind of power over you. He is messing with your head and trying to manipulate you into doing his bidding...just like the devil.

A person that loves you would never want you to be uncomfortable. I hope that you see that. He views you as a way out of his country and that is it. That does not mean there is something wrong with you...there is something wrong with HIM. No man...which he is not BTW threatens a woman he is supposed to love.

Keep blocking him. Keep ignoring him. He will get tired and move on. You owe him nothing. Give your love to someone who deserves it. This jerk does not deserve to rent space in your head. Do not live your life in fear. That is all he can do now. What a jerk he is.

With narc abuse there is a method called the grey rock. Google it. He is looking for a response. Don't give him the satisfaction.

Glad that you did take steps to report him. Take back your personal power and do not let him emotionally abuse you any longer. You will be fine. If you need to lay low for awhile on social media, then do it. Trust your gut on this.

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