Here's my experience

Submitted by Anna, Sep 4, 2018 at 13:05

I came across this page on a web search. I have read through a lot of your responses and identify with a lot of the experiences.

Last year I met at guy on a dating site. This guy was 9 years older than me and from Jordan. He said that he was here for his job and to visit his family. He kept bugging me to go out with him. So I met him in broad daylight at a Starbucks . He stood way to close to me but I just attributed it to cultural differences. I talked to him for a bit before his cousin picked up him up. Fast forward to that night he video chatted me and had me briefly meet his family that he was staying with.
He kept asking me when I was going to see him again before he left for Jordan. I told him I didn't know. I gave him and met at his family house atfer work. I meet his aunt and his cousins. He had said that he was looking to get married since he had been divorced for a year. I told him I just wanted to be friends. He then tell his 16 year cousin in Arabic that he was okay with being friends but then tell me he didn't want to be friends. His cousin said that his divorce was really bad. When I asked him about it he wouldn't tell me but he "told" his wife and his mother in law were controlling. The day he texted me but something seemed off. That night he asked me to marry him. I told him I needed to know someone a couple of years before I marry them. I then asked him was he trying to marry me to get a green card. He got upset and said "what kind of monster do you think I am!" He called me the next day and told he was going to get drunk because he was trying to be with me and I didn't care about him. He called me at 6am on Sunday drunk and saying "I don't know what to do" and asking for nude photos. When he sobered that afternoon I told him what he did and the level of ridiculous it reached. He went back to Jordan a week later and we agreed to be friends.
1. Got an angry call after he got back in Jordan saying he needed more communication. After 2 weeks of knowing me?
2. Would say he would kill himself if I wasn't with him. He said he hated his life in Jordan. He jokingly threatened to kill me.
3. Had his aunt talking to me trying to convince why I should marry him and how Jordanian men don't waste time with girls they want to marry.
4. He kept asking me when I was going to get my passport to go visit Jordan and saying that his aunt would accompany me.
5. Kept saying he'd marry me in Jordan.
6. Kept requesting that I show him by body.
7. Would get mad when I said that things were being rushed.
8. Said his job was moving him to Saudi Arabia.
9. Said he didn't use Facebook. Found it.
10. Would get mad when you didn't agree with him and would talk down to me.

I ended up cutting ties in the best and least stressful way possible. I text him and told him I was starting graduate school and didn't have time for anything else. I liked and agreed to be friends.

I blocke him dl on the app I was talking to him on. But I think once he realized it, he called me on my regular number. All in all, this brought memories writing this. Ihave tried to work through some of this icky stuff in therapy. I am also interning for a domestic violence organization and a lot of what these men do can be considered domestic violence.

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