Dear Lynny and Lorna

Submitted by Siobhan (United States), Sep 1, 2018 at 21:09

Lynny, I couldn't have said it better. That's exactly what the rat is doing to Lorna. He has absolutely no real feelings for her. He wants entry into the UK, that's all.

Lorna et al, please bear in mind that these Muslim boys are not into romance like the West. It is neither their culture nor part of their religion. There is little or no contact with the female before marriage. Marriage is usually arranged and the whole family is involved in that decision.
Any attempt at romance is fake. The "I love yous" and "I want to marry you" during an online encounter is an act. These dudes watch a lot of Western movies so they have all the right words.

Lorna, please let it go. There are real and decent men in the UK and I should know, I married one. Although we are no longer together, we remain friends and do not regret one day of having being with him. It's more than I can say about the Muslim dude from Morocco; I regret that decision because I ignored the warning signs and my gut feelings.

Please keep reading the messages and see that you are not alone.
There are probably two or three marriage or relationships with (Muslim men) that are real here. One woman is already of that culture. The people who talk about long-term, happy "relationships" with Mena boys they met online, are not believable for obvious reasons. It is even less believable when the woman is older with children and the guy is younger. Muslim families want their sons to marry and have children so it's hardly likely they will want or welcome an older woman (who has passed her child-bearing age) into the fold.
At this point it's all about money and visas. I assure you, they will be gone as soon as these needs or wants are filled. It should be noted that the families are usually a part of the deceit, including wives they might already have.

Good luck Lorna and please listen to Lynny and the rest of us. We've all been there, done that. Most of us didn't even get the tee-shirt. Hahaha! :D

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