Dear Jacki,guard your heart!

Submitted by Lana(USA) (United States), Jul 26, 2018 at 17:25

Hello dear and welcome to the forum.

In short-I would advice you to listen to your gut feelings as only you may know what to do in this situation.

Let your man prove himself to you,do not fall for his sweet talk,as many of MENA men are notorious of sweet talking western women into their cobwebs...and later,unfortunately,we will be reading of more and more miserable endings of the stories that started so beautifully....
First of all,learn as much as you can about the Islam as the way of living and not just religion.Ask yourself if you will be willing to give up your values and beliefs in order to obey your future husband?

Will you be able to follow the strict rulings of Islam and traditions of the country you are going to live ?Will you feel safe there,being on your own?If not,what is your "plan B",in case things did not work?

We can only give you an advice but decision should be made by you.

I truly wish with all my heart that we have more and more happy endings and happily ever after stories,but.....The name of the forum speaks for itself.

Three things I am sure I can tell you not to do:
•Do not get intimate before marriage with MENA men!If you do do,you will not be considered as marriage material anymore,but a free sex toy,NO MATTER WHAT HE MAY SAY TO CONVINCE YOU OTHERWISE!
•Do not give him ANY MONEY!!!!

•Do not give your personal information,details,
or your legal documents to anyone you barely know!

And you might as well,read multiple stories on this forum of how many hopes and dreams were destroyed by those men,how many broken hearts and empty valets....Most of the women in those stories are smart and beautiful,but still got into a bad romance....

Please do not rush with your decisions based to your emotions,use your head and do not let your heart to rule it when making life changing decisions!

Love is a verb,it is a will to give and not to take from the loved one.
If you do not see it in his actions and not words then he is an illusion...
Stay strong and if you are writing the story of your life,do not ever let anybody else to hold your pen or dictate of how it should be!!!

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