hello Jacki and welcome

Submitted by Chelsea (United States), Jul 23, 2018 at 19:10

Since you asked. I would not advise it. I took a trip once overseas and ended up marrying my foreigner only to be tricked into coming back to America and going down immigration road which you do not want to go down.

There are several things to take into consideration. First and foremost check the state travel Department at State Department. Gov and see where it is safe to travel and not to travel. Also know that going to a Muslim country that if he was to wine and dine you and give you everything you think you ever wanted... Then maybe tell you that he could marry you over there and you could come back and start proceedings... Also know that your passport could be held and you would not be able to leave the country. Under Sharia law you are half the value of a man. These men are crafty manipulative Liars and their religion does not see anything wrong with lying... It's called taqqiya.

You did come to the correct place to ask this question and if you look back at some of the disaster stories of how women were used and discarded after the green card you will see that lives have been destroyed. There's a reason this page is called advice against Muslim marriage. Also consider that the family in that culture always comes before you and with immigration the way it is now especially here in the United States. Marriage is the quickest way to get a Visa. I'm not sure where you are from because I may have overlooked it but I don't seem to recall seeing where you're from.

Did you meet him online? How long have you known him?

Understand that people are desperate to get out of their countries and will use another person...does not matter if they are old, young pretty ugly of any nationality just as long as they can get a green card. The Muslim countries expect a woman to be a slave to a man. It's just the way it is. He may be telling you everything that you need to hear because he may have targeted you because of a certain vulnerability. Don't ever be sorry for asking for advice and help because this is your life. I wish I had found this forum before I went through all of the love bombing all of the mirroring and risking my life to travel 60 miles south of where the war was going on in Syria at that time. It has been 4 years and I'm over it now but it took a long time to get over the dopamine rush from all of the love bombing.

I, like you, was warned over and over but nothing was going to stop me because I believed him. But I've come to never trust words on a computer when it comes to online dating and my future and most importantly my life.

Even if you were from the United States you would still have to be with him for 2 years even if you didn't get along and then he would need your cooperation for the 10-year permanent resident status. You do sign a contract with the government saying that if he ever needed assistance Medicaid Medicare you would have to pay that back even if you got a divorce you are still on the hook with the US government because you signed a contract with them for 10 years. OUCH.

If you are from the US please look at immigration news daily because even those that are up for renewals on their permanent status residency are not getting it. Major immigration reform going on right now in the United States. I would say this is why a lot of comments are not being shared because it is getting harder and harder. If you would like to step back to a country and live with him, by all means go ahead but your life would be drastically different and again your husband could hold your passport so you could not leave.

Be careful to note that the men overseas are desperate to better their lives... A lot of times they may already be married and a Muslim can marry up to four women. Would you be okay with that? Sometimes the men are already married in their country and come to your country only to divorce you after they get their permanent residence and bring their wife over.

Sharia dictates everything in your life. And the ones that I know that have married Muslim men report to me that after the marriage they changed. I'm not saying that some do not work out and I'm happy for those that do but today and this world we live in I would definitely not take risk

At any rate it is your decision to make... But Choose Wisely this is your life and you have reached out and I just don't feel good about it especially the way things are going in the world today. You also have to ask the question would you want him around your family friends and fellow countrymen? I'm just throwing some questions out there for you to consider.

They have been hitting me up on Facebook all the time and now they don't even go through the love bombing stage it is I love you will you marry me? It is because of the desperation. Desperation and pity are not a good match for a marriage made in heaven.

I hope this helped you and please go back and read some of the other ladies comment about what had happened to them. We're here to help you because we've been there and we don't want to see another lady have her life destroyed or have her hurt or have her to become a fatality.

Regards

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