Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men

Submitted by Chelsea, Feb 7, 2018 at 16:53

How independent are you? Are you a free-thinker or do you usually go along with everyone else? Are you a strong-minded woman? Do you value equality and freedom for all? Are you submissive and subservient? Are you a working woman or more of a housewife? Do you want children? If yes, how do you plan on raising your children? Think about both the male and the female. Are they equal? Do you love animals? Do you like fighting or peace?

if you are a friendly, outgoing person who is used to smiling and chatting with people as you interact with them, be prepared to give it all up. It is VERY difficult, and VERY lonely. But if you do not, you will have BIG problems...like being ridiculed and yelled at in the street by your husband. It's not that he wants to do this, but HE MUST. Why? Because all the other men will be looking at him, giving him the eye that he is not in CONTROL of his woman. Other men will assume that by you speaking to them you WANT them. This will drive your husband crazy which will again, either lead to a fight with the man and/or a fight with you, most likely both.

These are the words of someone else that I wish I had known before because I DID experience these things and they are true.

from a moderator responding to a woman used for a visa/marriage fraud victim who was left after entry to the US as she was trying to withdraw affidavit of support which is a contract between the US Sponsor and the US Government (most do not read the responsibilities of the US Sponsor) It will wake you up pretty quickly: Sadly, we see all too many stories just like yours here. This kind of marriage fraud for the purpose of obtaining a visa is all too common with US, EU, Canadian women and men from the Middle East, North Africa and Arab nations. The only thing that is even sadder is the fact that while all kinds of women are posting to our forums seeking advice, they seem to all be of the impression that IT WILL NEVER HAPPEN TO THEM so they refuse to take the advice given or listen to the (all too true) horror stories like yours. They all think they know better, which makes me wonder just why they're here asking for advice in the first place, when they clearly only want confirmation of what they already plan on doing?

I would NOT ADVISE traveling to their country. Read the US Dept of State page on travel warnings. You marry overseas, you could have your passport taken from you.

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