Guidelines to Dating.

Submitted by Luhx, Feb 2, 2018 at 19:58

Someone should PIN a post at the top because this entire message board is basically new people coming here, asking the same questions and getting the same answers over and over. It's one of the reasons why I don't come here for months and only come to put up an update every once in a blue moon to prove that YOU CAN MARRY A MUSLIM MAN and be in a healthy and functional marriage.

But - You as women need to use some COMMON SENSE.

1. If you wouldn't do it with a man from your own culture, country or religion - WHY IN THE WORLD WOULD YOU MAKE AN EXCEPTION for someone else?

2. Giving money to ANY man, regardless of where they are from or what religion they are is simply stupid. A man who is GROWN UP and READY to be married will not be asking you for money. I don't CARE what the reason is. IT DOES NOT HAPPEN and if it does you SHOULD RUN the other way and NEVER look back. Just because these specific men seem to have "good reasons" only means they have an easy way to make it SEEM like it's a good idea to give them money. A Muslim man will provide for his wife if he is being serious. THERE ARE LITERALLY NO EXCEPTIONS. A good Muslim man who is serious about marriage with a woman would actually NOT EVEN BE ENGAGED TO HER if he wasn't ABLE to provide a life for his wife.

3. If he's in his twenties and is good looking and you are older and (be honest with yourself) not in his league physically that is NOT something you should OVERLOOK. I'm not saying that looks are everything but they DO hold value. If you are in your thirties and he is in his twenties... Come on. Let's just be real.

4. If you find other girls on their facebook, if they won't add you to facebook, if they have tons of women from other countries ON their facebook - Use your head. What does that usually mean when a man from your own country is a facebook pimp? It means he is just that right? No difference just because your guy is a Muslim. In fact, it's even MORE of a warning sign.

5. If you met him in a tourism area chances are at least 80% you are being scammed. Move on.

6. If you have to write a long post explaining why you think you are being scammed, you are being scammed or played at the very least. So don't even ask advice. Just read your own post and think of what you would say to someone if they were asking you. COMMON SENSE.

7. If you only met them online and they are a day in calling you sweet names and telling you they love you... WHAT DO YOU THINK? If a man from your OWN country or culture was doing that you would think he was a creep, psycho, pathetic or weird. Why is this any different because he is mysterious? Looks good?

Most of you that post on here are walking right towards a closed door then come back to complain when you banged your head against it. I have zero sympathy for you.

Can these marriages work? Yes. I met my husband for a short time in Vegas, spent nine months communicating online, he moved here when I refused to move to Egypt and we have been married ever since. Have there been hard times? Aren't there in every marriage? Am I happy? Yes. Do I love my husband? Yes. Did I get played? No.

It can work, but most of you are simply starting from a place that already has no future and you just don't want to face it.

Face it.

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