Re:why do they contact you again?

Submitted by Lana(USA) (United States), Oct 8, 2017 at 00:36

Hello Healing Heart
I am glad to hear from you!
The reason they do it-is to remind you about himas soon as you started to mend yourself, and to see if you still into him.
Like nothing happened.
It is another way to manipulate you and your emotions.
Because he does not care if you hurt or not,as to him you are only an object with no feelings and if you have something that he may benefit from,he will try to take advantage of you again one way or another.

No he did not change!Trust me!

PLEASE STAY NO CONTACT EVEN IF IT HURTS AS HELL AND FEELS LIKE YOU ARE GOING TO FALL APART-YOU WILL NOT!!!!

He wants to have you back just to use you again ,and then -dump you,to show that he is in charge of when to break up this so-called "relationship" and it is his decision,not yours!

SO BETTER BE THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY,
than one who got dumped.

I wrote it in my posts earlier, that mine did contacted me again,he even dared to mention God and wanted to hoover me back,saying of how much he missed me and that he went to his country and brought me a present,and so on.I did not bother to respond,so that the next day he wrote:"Dismissed".(Like I ever care at all))))For mine-option "second chance"-was successfully disabled!))) He was dismisses a while ago,like he never ever existed.

Too bad we can not write in front of our hearts"please wipe your feet" before you enter it,like some rugs say at the house entrance.So we should not let someone lousy to crawl back into our life again.

And that showed me how "much he missed me and loved me".He did not realized that I dismissed him a while ago and is laughing at his so predictable and immature manipulative behavior.

Love is a verb,it is a will to give and not to take from the loved one.
If you do not see it in his actions and not words then he is an illusion in your head of how things could be but never was,and-trust me-never will be.So let go of this illusion and move on.
Let that clown out of your life,let him perform for somebody else.

Stay strong and if you are writing the story of your life,do not ever let anybody else to hold your pen or dictate of how it should be!!!
Hugs!

Lana

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