Gigi, you need to be realistic

Submitted by Shömi (United States), Sep 29, 2017 at 15:41

Dear Gigi,

Given your Jack is a Coptic Christian... then of course he will not marry you according to Muslim custom (Urfi). Of course he will want a formal marriage with plenty of evidence. Of course he won't have sex with you beforehand, because in fact marriage is the only way for him to even see you in person. He "showed you" a company, is he employed yet? Enrolled in College? Does he even have a tourist/student visa to come to US, not to mention a green card, social security, permission to work? It's difficult to become a legal resident in US, especially with Trump in the Office. Half of the 3rd world imagine West as a place where money grow on trees. No matter what you do and how sweet, your Jack might become disappointed, disenchanted, missing his family, his culture. Does he really have enough life experience to keep the promises he is making now?

You asked us to wish you well. I'm sorry if supporting your happiness and supporting your marriage to Jack seem to me as two different things... Copts don't marry outside Orthodox Church. If he is as serious as you are, you should probably focus on the fact that you'll be asked to convert.

All the Best,
Shömi

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