To Chelsea

Submitted by Lana(USA) (United States), Aug 16, 2017 at 08:25

Hello and thank you for your kind words!

It is great that you live by the ocean!!!
NATURE IS TRULY THE BEST HEALER!!!
I never knew myself,how nature heals and keeps your inner peace.Presently -I try to stay away from my computer and this illusion of virtual reality.
I go out and breath fresh air,look around,enjoying this Summer breeze, and live in real life.
Being away,cleared my head of this love haze,illusion of non-existent man.

Of cause, he will try to contact you-again and again,like he does with the other girls on his long list of multiple lovers,to see who is available.....finally realizing of what he lost,but bear in mind that it is not because of he misses you, but rather as a part of controlling personality and to boost his ego.

He will use any tricks to have you back,only to start over the circle of narcissistic abuse, and at the end will dump you,to show his power,that it is his decision,not yours, and he is winning this game.
The more victims he scores ,the better...
Because inside of him -is one big pathetic loser,inflating his ego every which way he can,and he knows it.I do not even bother with revenge,trying to get even with what he did-I am pitying his miserable life he has,because of every day he is fighting this inner battle to prove to the world that he
is worthy of being put on a pedestal.Deep down inside he knows that he is no more than pathetic little child,trapped in man's body,not emotionally developed to handle serious relationship and to have any mature emotins:love,empathy,caring-he does not knows what is it and therefore can not feel it.He can care less about your emotions and feelings,he simply can not feel your pain and disappointment.You are an object to him,a source of his pleasure.Objects do not have emotions(according to him)..Just like a toy.It is shiny and fascinating,until it is new.Once it is broken,he wants another one.

DO NOT LET HIM TO HAVE YOU BACK!!!!!!!!NO,HE DID NOT CHANGE!!!!
BE THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY,RATHER THAN A DUMPED ONE.

He will get more and more creative to hoover you back-only to continue taking advantage of you.

Mine did.He was saying all the nice things you expect to hear,even saying that he was on a trip to his country and got me a present ,wants to meet and give it to me...after a few month of the silent treatment...out of the blue....I did not bother to respond.
Deleted his voicemail like I never got it.....Is it true? Or just another trick to check up if I am still not over him? Should I care?Why?Who does he thinks he is-playing with other people's hearts,juggling their emotions?

After I gave him so many chances in the past- to prove himself to me,he blew every single one of it.....What is it now?Another "someone else" dumped him, after learning of what a piece of crap he is,so he suddenly remembered that I exist? What he expects from me?

Loyalty,he abused before,or my trust,given to him too soon,before he earned it and broke every which way....Is it worth to destroy my inner peace again-for nothing,for someone who " tastes" the others to see who suits him better,catering to his needs? Didn't he get it,didn't he saw it that I am the best he ever met?
Going back to this- only makes you disrespectful to your dignity.
WE ARE BETTER THAN THIS.
IF HE STILL DID NOT NOTICE-I WILL NOT BE ANOTHER MONKEY IN HIS HAREM OF MULTIPLE WILLING SLUTS, WHO ARE READY TO JUMP IN HIS BED INSTANTLY-BECAUSE I AM A LADY AND WILL NOT TOLERATE BEING REDUCED TO ONE OUT OF MANY SEX-TOYS,HE HAS.....TOO BAD FOR HIM-HE DID NOT NOTICED IT....

Someone once wrote:"Her eyes don't light up when she hears your name anymore. She doesn't get chills when you walk by and her heart doesn't race when you smile at her. You don't get her like you used to. You're just a bad memory in the back of her mind. So don't be surprised next time you make your way past her and she doesn't even glance your way. And don't bother trying to talk to her, you won't get a response. She's over with fighting the same losing battle. The saddest part is you have no one to blame but yourself. She gave you every chance you could ask for. And you f***ed up every time. Now she walks around with nothing but a smile on her face, and she laughs louder than ever before. Looks like you've lost her bro. "

He is not the last man in the world to hold on to.

STAY STRONG,MAINTAINING NO CONTACT,WHILE SAVING YOUR INNER PEACE AND TIME,
YOU WILL BE WASTING IF CONTINUE WITH HIM!!!

Hugs!
Lana

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