Good god

Submitted by Siobhan (United States), Aug 5, 2017 at 10:21

I have a few questions for whom it may concern:

1) What is the point of saying a god is guiding you in your relationship, when obviously that communication is down and not working well for you. That's why you came to this website.

2) Why ask for advice and show your concerns about a relationship when you expect it to be favourable?

3) Why insult the messenger (e.g. Straight_Talk_Luigi) when you are given solid advice, based on experience and the thousands of communication from other people who "have been there".

We all thought our Mena rat was different and everything would be coming up roses. Well, it's not a reality.
It could probably work for a minority which is too small for anyone to wager a guess as to a success percentage.

In fact, there is only ONE person who has commented here, that I find her success story to be believable. Her name slips me now, but she is a lawyer who got tired of corporate life and chose to live with her husband; who is also a professional, in Egypt. Their ages were not far apart and they are both independent and successful people in their own right.

We already know how difficult relationships are even with those of our own ilk. Why then would it work with this person from a completely different background. They are usually uneducated and totally dependent on you for support.

The older women who think they have a chance with the younger, nubile Mena guys, had better learn to "live in the moment" because that's all there is. There is no future for for you together so stop fooling yourselves, please.
The guys want money and a visa so they can come to our countries to work or live off your generousity. This will enable them to support their families back home and provide money for the dowry or Mahr, which is a mandatory payment for a young bride from their own religion and culture. This is no flexibility on their part...it's a generational culture.

For those of you who choose to go ahead despite the warnings, I wish you well. Please know that we will be here to provide a shoulder for you to cry on and will be mature enough not to say "I told you so".

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