Online relationship:how this happen(my 5 cents)

Submitted by Lana(USA), Jul 3, 2017 at 09:17

Hello Everyone!

Although I am not writing much here lately,I frequently visit this forum that gives us tremendous amount of information needed,to put our MENA MAN PUZZLE together)))),not to mention the support and empathy to those who are hurt.

In my opinion -the reason for falling for online romance is that at times our routine life becomes gray,dull and way too predictable,busy with daily routine,we are craving for attention and that LA LA LAND feeling we had when we were younger,that thrill of first romance,that sense of being special,even if it is only virtually.We sort of "pull it " in our lives creating this perfect dream in our heads while talking to the stranger,in hopes that he has the same one in his head.
Too bad that most of the time is like mirage....We want to see and feel what we want,but not necessary the reality of it.(Like in that old anecdote :You got married to a charming prince,live in a beautiful fortress near the oasis in the middle of the desert,surrounded by palms and camels....Then-mirage dissolves and first-the castle is gone,then-palms and oasis...and at the end -you are left with the camel(in place of prince)))).

Most of the time we fall for the person that does not exist in reality ,for that ideal man we have in our head,projecting our dreams onto someone who just was "passing by" in that moment and sensed our vulnerability.
Then later those players juggle our emotions not only to feel powerful and to boost their ego,but to get what they need at that moment.
Ladies,guard your hearts and do not open it up to a strangers just because st some moment of weakness you have no one else to pour your fears dreams and hopes to.

I agree that it will be much easier to build steady relationship with a person from the same culture,same things in common

Have a wonderful Summer!
Dream big but watch whom you are sharing this dream with,so that you will not have to prove yourself right again and again on a things you wish you were wrong about.

Hugs and best wishes to all!!!
LANA

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