Facts over feelings always

Submitted by Chelsea, Jun 13, 2017 at 18:32

Hello Ruth

So glad you came here. Best place to be for these kind of issues.

I am one who did talk for a year online and eventually went overseas.

It is easy to listen to the nice words promises and feel the intoxication of love. But words are not facts.

FACT:

Love real love would never put you at risk by asking you to come to a foreign country where you may be in danger possibly not be able to come back.

FACT

You can never really know someone online....they can tell you anything

FACT

From experience personally and being part of this forum.... It is true that they will be patient and wait...as long as it takes to get away from poverty.

FACT

They will say anything....anything they believe will convince you to come and HELP them because they engage in long conversations to learn you and how to manipulate you with words only.

FACT

If you marry and start legal proceedings....you will have to have a domicile in your country....it will cost you tons of money....years of wait time.... Then you will be still responsible for him for up to 10 years even if he leaves you after green card.

FACT

If he becomes a public charge to the government...you will have to pay for it.

FACT

Someone who loves you would not allow you to go through that. They also would not allow you to be in danger.

FEELINGS

Yes it is easy to get caught up in these sweet words... Promises and all the other such as you having freedom and children and all. But once you get married... You are property. If he says now that you belong to him...it is a different kind of belong than what you know. Once married...you will be property as any other THING he possesses.

LET ME TELL YOU THAT IT IS NOT WORTH THE RISK. YOUR LIFE COULD BE RUINED OR LOST.

THE FACT THAT YOU ARE HERE ON THIS FORUM IS BECAUSE YOU ALREADY KNOW THAT YOUR GUT IS TELLING YOU TO MOVE ON.

TRUST YOUR GUT.

much love....Chelsea

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