What should I do?

Submitted by Anonymous (United States), May 11, 2017 at 02:52

I'm completely lost... I started dating this Arab guy 6 months ago after 4 years of being single. Everything happened so quickly I don't even think I knew what I was getting myself into. I'm a single mom of a 3 year old, so far he is being really nice towards my baby. He has helped me in so many different ways that I tent to think he is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, but sometimes I wonder if his love is real because he says he loves me but then he would say something to hurt me. I started to feel insecure about this relationship one time when he mentioned that I should probably try to lose the extra pounds I gained during my pregnancy. I've try everything to do so, but nothing works.

I'm not happy. Not just because its been really hard for me to lose weight but because I can't feel confident with myself anymore. After that one, some other mean comments came along. "I'm not at his same level, I like to be treated like shit, I'm nothing for him" and he even said "I'm just a game." In the other hand, he has done beautiful things for me, and he always uses the excuse that he was really mad when he said all those nasty things to me. I met his mother already, we just went out for lunch. He has no intention on telling his parents or even friends I have a baby. I don't think I've ever been in love with someone like I am with him. A part of me wants to leave him because I'm not completely happy, and I fear that he might be just using me while he finds his soul mate...

I really don't think I have the strength to leave him right now... How can I take a decision??

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