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Something I want to tell everyone that I don't think I ever mentioned as long as I have been on here

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Submitted by Cynthia, Apr 5, 2017 at 07:31

Hi to all readers and I hope you are well. I don't think I ever told the complete story of my RAT.

My pain still exists in my heart and one reason it does is because it involved my Mother. I was seeing him in 2014 and some in 2015. My Mother wasn't in the best of health but I have family that helped see about her if I was on a trip. The summer of 2015 my Mother had a lot of close calls due to Anemia. Her BP dropped once in the ER to 30/19. My heart dropped into pieces but she survived. Sadly when your hemoglobin is low your body organs do not get the oxygen they need. It's very crucial to the kidneys and heart. Her brain did suffer from the lack of oxygen and she started developing worse dementia. We had her evaluated and we knew she had a slight case of it.

During the summer it became severe and she was in and out of the hospital. My RAT was upset because I couldn't come see him. He didn't show any empathy for what I was dealing with. The last time my mother was in the hospital for 2 weeks the social worker nicely threatened myself and my brothers. She said she needed 24/7 care and it didn't matter that we never left her alone because we weren't trained professionals. She had to go to a nursing facility. She never wanted to be in one she told us in her younger years but we didn't have a choice and yes she knew it wasn't home and I became her target she was angry with. My mother and I had always been close and she was not herself at all. The dr said she most likely targeted me because of our closeness. I went out on FMLA at work. It's a leave for 12 weeks with a percentage of pay you receive. My brothers and I took turns in doing this within 6 months. My mother lived in the nursing facility for 6 months and then passed.

My RAT told me I didn't love my mother or I wouldn't have put her in such a place. He said your mother will die hating you. My mother passed away a year ago and yes she did die hating me but I know she was not responsible for her say or actions because dementia is a absolutely horrible disease. I prayed for God to take her. She stopped eating and drinking. We didn't have a feeding tube inserted because she had always told us not to if there was not any hope of her getting better. We knew this would only prolong the suffering. Hospice came in for the last few weeks of her life but it didn't help her much. She kept declining. I was suffering so much watching this because I love her so much.

In the meantime I was being criticized and insulted by a heartless inhuman thing I had been seeing and talking to. This was the last straw with him and I told him to go to hell. He's heartless and he showed what kind of raising he came from. It wasn't long until my mother passed. She passed the day after her birthday. It breaks my heart because I was on my way to see her that Friday and she died 20 minutes before I got there. She passed without any of her family with her and it just killed me. I did hear from him again and I told him she passed and he said she died hating you too because you didn't love her. I made sure he couldn't contact me anymore. He had tried but we have not talked and we never will. My heart was broken over 2 losses. I had spent time with this man and I had real feelings for him. He killed them . I won't ever forget how inhuman he acted toward me during a time I needed him to have a heart because mine was broken and I was struggling and I felt I was drowning. He didn't care.

I apologize for a long story but I had planned to eventually tell it and how some of these MENA MEN can be so heartless and not care for you. I wasted my time with him and spent a lot of money on traveling. I don't care about the material things but I hurt over how was treated during a time I needed him so much. God gave me stength and I was able to help myself be strong. I still hurt because I have an empty space in my heart for the loss of my mother and he really killed what I felt for him but it caused a wound which is now a deep scar.

I want all of you who read this and if you're involved with a MENA MEN they are very deceiving. They are quite the actors because I never expected to get what I got from him. I knew he had sneakiness about him but it's like he was inhuman. I wondered about his entire family because such actions come from the raising I believe when someone is this heartless to others. They think of only themselves and think they know and are right about everything. Be very cautious bevause your Arab prince could be just a low down heartless filthy dirty RAT from the sewer.

Thanks to all who read this and sorry for my story being very long . Much love to all <3

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