Certificate

Submitted by Neptune (Russia), Mar 14, 2017 at 10:06

Dear Sophie,

Do you have the valid marriage certificate with you to prove convincingly that you both have married?

If you have,get many copies and send one of them to the Algerian Embassy.Take at least two witnesses with you who can and will stand by you.Get also ,if possible,help from police if they can come with you( just one officer will do) just in case the embassy officials ignore you.You have already got in touch with your home affairs.That Dept.might help here as well.Once you can manage to send a copy of your marriage certificate ( get a receipt from the Embassy official on another copy--hence 10 copies to be kept with you to be safe.Don't mention this to the Embassy,or else they might consider it blackmail and in order to protect their person's interest tear all) through the Embassy to the local police station where he lives/ your embassy official visits him( this is still better) and confronts him.

Let him confess to his family what he has done in front of S.A.Embassy official,then we have to wait and watch what happens.

I do not want to scare you( since we don't know why he is behaving like this),but you should have insisted upon having his family at the time of the marriage--Courtroom or Church). Then his true colours could have been seen.Age is immaterial providing you both are happy together.

Even if this falls through,don't blame yourself and don't break down.A bout of feelings of despair &betrayal is o.k. However,don't lose yourself into it.There is no need to break down.In fact,this is the time to take a few deep breaths and consider all possibilities and the options you can have.Why did you not follow through with your home dept.itself? Why only confirm he is not married? You could have followed it up till his door the way I have told you earlier.

Even if he has cheated you,just don't feel guilty.It happened and instead of suffering more after a fake or half-hearted( on his part) marriage, you would consider yourself lucky .

Best luck,dear lady.

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