Relationship Comparisons & My concerns

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jan 15, 2017 at 18:48

Ok Jessie, you REALLY need to stop comparing your relationship to Luhx's. The difference is night and day. Luhx did not go looking on-line for her husband and they met in person...and she didn't fall for the first guy who randomly messaged her on Facebook. Also, she doesn't make excuses and is in the same range and has done some discernment even after the fact. I can only wish that so many others on here would be a fraction as diligent and open as she has been.

After reading your recent posts, Jessie, I am very concerned. For weeks if not months you've been selling the idea that you weren't that interested in marriage unlike all these other women while walking a fine tight-rope and now you are all in I guess because you met him once and had sex. It's clear to me that you have been used and are continuing to be used.

You also asked me about my past relationship with a woman who used me. Interestingly enough, the same thing happened with the cashier you wrote about earlier to me as well. I bought her all kinds of clothes and jewerly and both she and the cashier agreed on the basic principle "I was a keeper". Also, people were telling me that this relationship was not in my best interests, and boy where they right.

Also, Jessie, if you were in a good relationship you had absolute confidence in, you would not need to buddy-up with Luhx every time she posts advice and write a big long paragraph about how "your Mohamed" is different from every one else and why her advice need not apply to you. That is not unique to this forum.

You may be able to fool others on here by constantly repeating this or just because you take the time to post about how great everything is. I think you need to read the advice on here more carefully and if you're not going to listen to me, at least listen to Luhx Marghany and apply the advice to your situation.

I have no doubt, Jessie, that you like the attention from a much younger man. Who wouldn't? No one can possibly blame you for having feelings. But has he ever posted to a MENA forum defending his Asian woman in Canada of 15 +years older than him? You're the one who seems to be doing all of that, Jessie. And what all this money he spends? Do you know where it comes from? Has it ever occurred to you even once as a fleeting though that he is soliciting money from other women while being all sexual with you and helping with the dishes and the like?

I am in the same age range as your partner. We really do not go looking for serious relationships with foreign women for marriage who are 5-40 years older even if they look many years younger.

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