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Advice please. Dating a Muslim man.

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Submitted by Ashleigh (Spain), Jan 10, 2017 at 11:39

I have recently moved to Spain with my children. I have met a Moroccan man who is 34 whilst living in Spain.
He is a kind loving man and is wonderful to my children.

I am a 30 year old white British woman. I am covered head to toe in tattoos and have them on both sides of my face.

I know in his religion tattooing is not allowed same as alcohol..etc.

When I told my mother about him she point blank refused to accept it.
I came online to educate myself a little more and see why she felt so against us dating.
I read all these posts and articles and feel like most of them relate very truthfully to my relationship.
His family not knowing about me.
No affection in public (only in my home)
He is happy to sleep with me and share my bed.
There's so many more.

Last night I brought it all up in conversation and asked him why I had to change for him but he refused to change
For me.

He stopped me and told me very firmly that he had in fact changed his way for me and my children.

He has accepted that my best friends happen to be a gay couple and he treats them both equally and kind. (Although he strongly disagrees with their life choice)

He embraces my children beautifully in public and has recently started meeting me in our local bar for coffee.
He gives me a hug in public now and kisses each cheek to say hello, he also at my daughters birthday party kissed me very quickly on the lips.
I want to believe desperately that he accepts me and what he tells me is the truth.
I don't want this to be the same outcome as all the other stories I've read from other non Muslim women on various sites.

Ending up dumped with no care years and years into a relationship.
Being the "whore girlfriend" to kill time till he is ready to marry a pure Muslim woman.

I am so confused and saddened by the possibility of heart ache not just for me but for my children who have grown very fond of this man.

Please help me someone

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