I hope what I tell you helps Ollie

Submitted by MLID (United States), Jan 7, 2017 at 20:51

Hi Ollie, you ask how do we do it? I was married to an Algerian and he made my life hell. He was the sweetest talking and good natured person I thought and when I brought him to the US on a K1 visa , we got married. Immediately he started changing. He cheated on me. He would wait until I was asleep and he would get on Skype and have cam sex. I caught him. I peeped through the door of the room he was in until he climaxed with this girl and I walked in and hit him in the head in front of the girl on Skype. I paid for it because he hit me in both my eyes afterwards and I had two black eyes. I looked like I had been in a car wreck and he hit me so hard the x-ray the doctor did said he cracked my orbital bone. My Dad wanted to kill him. I know he saw other American women too. I paid for him to get a work visa while I had been working and he was playing. He said he would help with the bills. I got pregnant too. I'm shocked I did because he lost interest in me and I love as his wife. I stayed stressed and upset. I miscarried my baby. I wanted him to go back to Algeria. I felt I hated him. I lost my house I had before I met him. I lost my car , my savings.

I didn't have any security but I'm blessed with a loving understanding family. His parents never liked me just because I wasn't who they wanted for him. They found him an Algerian girl (21) to marry when he and I divorced. We have a five year age difference. I'm sorry I got detailed but I want you to know you can get over him. You may never forget but take one day at a time. Make your mind up to be done! Don't talk to him , text with him, not anything. It takes time and you have to help yourself and have strength. It will get easier. It has for me. I didn't talk to him unless I had to about the divorce.

It's over now and we don't have a reason to have contact. It's not going to happen in a few days , few weeks. You have to try hard and you can do it . Ask yourself do you want to live like this? You said he has other girls. Can you tolerate that Ollie? Kick him to the curb as hard as you can and be done with him! It will get better for you.

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