To Ollie

Submitted by Hope (United Kingdom), Dec 31, 2016 at 15:06

Ollie - I don't know if you saw my reply to your first post as it appeared much further down in the thread so here is a copy:

I don't think he will be christian as muslims very rarely renounce Islam and if he did it would not be acceptable to his family. That would also be a no no as he is a male member of the family and he has certain responsibilities.

Also if you were to have children going forward and he is muslim they would definitely be brought up as muslim - he would insist this. If he was born in the US I guess he is in a position to legally be there and indeed stay there? Obviously if you have doubts then maybe you should not consider marrying at this stage. I am not deeply religious but my ex Turkish husband attended church with me at Christmas but then he did use me and played the game until he got what he wanted - a visa for the UK. Your circumstances might be different though.

Listen to people around you as they are outside looking in and can sometimes see things more clearly. I wish you well.

Just be careful - I thought I had all bases covered with me ex husband but I certainly DID NOT. I would not wish anyone to go through what I went through although some people have had much worse experiences than me on this site for sure. I am now 2 years down the road, recovered well and am in a much better place, however I will never forget the deceit and betrayal that he and his family caused. Never. I have said many times I do not know how they live with themselves but they do not care, have no conscience because all they were interested in was him making a better life for him, his family and a woman that was in the background all the time. A child was even conceived whilst he was supposedly with me! It is incredible that these people can even call themselves religious or preach that Islam is a religion of peace - having said they their religion allows them to lie and deceive if it betters their life. We are non believers and do not count in the scheme of things. Who would I rather be - me! for sure. At least I have a clear conscience and know I did nothing wrong. I have forgiven for me not for him and now I just feel sorry for him as he is in the UK but he has no family life other than providing the money to keep it going, It is all for show, money is their God. Sad really!

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