What scam!!

Submitted by Candy Apple, Nov 30, 2016 at 17:35

Amy,
This is my take on your situation..

Hey!

I am a Catholic woman dating a Muslim man who is from Turkey but lives and works in the US and intends to make it his home.

Clearly, he needs a green card to do that!!!

He does not say ooey gooey lovey things to me. We are friends and we are sex partners and that's pretty much who we are. Neither of us wants to get married until we're in our 30's and we've already established that that probably won't be with each other.

Ok. So we have established that you are not being scammed. You are FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS.

Is there some sort of scam he could still be running on me?

Nope. No scam here. You said it yourself, "we have already established that it probably won't be with each other. No scam. Just free sex.

"He has never asked me for money".

Well, he is getting free sex so, he will settle for that.

Besides the green card thing, any other scams that seem obvious?

Nope. No other scams seen.

For now, I spend time with his friends and their girlfriends (remarkably most of them are also Catholic), and we all really enjoy talking about our cultures and our religions. I guess my last question would be does anyone have any experience with this kind of relationship? Anything else I need to worry about?

Why would you worry? You started off by saying "my man and I do not love each other". A scam is when one person in the relationship is in it for love, while the other person is in it to gain for his/her benefit. In your case, you said that y'all probably won't want to marry each other. Well, that's without a doubt on his part. He would never marry you and present you to hus mother. He will marry you temporarily to ascertain his residency status.

My question is why would you allow yourself to be used as a friends with benefits? You may want us to think that you are not developing feelings for this man, but the fact that you are here researching and seeking advice leads me to believe that at some point you have entertained the thought that maybe one day, he will love you and marry you.

I hope you do not take offense, but treat yourself with respect. He will never respect you now. No wonder these guys approach women the way they do, because they think all American and European women are easy and can be friends with BENEFITS.. This is not ok..

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