To Jordana and all readers!

Submitted by Cynthia (United States), Nov 27, 2016 at 11:56

Ladies listen to her she is telling you the truth. I'm grateful for her to take time to come here and help others. Listen to her seriously .

I've educated myself on the culture and religion. A good descent MENA man would not even give you a reason to think about coming to this forum. When my relationship blew up with my Moroccan guy I was bitter and angry. I felt they all were the same. I met a guy on Facebook who lives in Lebanon. He commented to me I was a stunning woman. He is not looking for a woman outside his culture or religion and neither am I for a man. We both want a good person from our own country. I think he was sent my way to help me realize there are good ones out there. We are only friends so and I did tell him what I went through. He expressed his deepest empathy and asked me not to hate all Arab men. I don't hate anyone. Like he said is very difficult to make a marriage work when you come from two completely different worlds

. I'm sure some have worked out. He told me yes there are guys who will use a woman to just get a visa. He also told same as Jordana on here MENA men do not have sex before marriage. It's an ultimate sin. They will not ask a woman for money if they are a good man. I could easily fall for this guy . He's mesmerizing but I know it's not what's best for me and he feels like I do. He wants a Muslim woman. He wants to stay in his country and he is successful there. We don't talk daily. We check on each other sometimes to see how the other one is doing. He helped me with my bitterness I had. I also educated myself more and I know I couldn't adjust to the culture and I'm not ashamed of my religion and I believe in it. I have a friend who met an Indian man from India in church. He treats her like a queen. They are married and have 3 beautiful children. He's one of the kindest men I know. I'm so happy for my friend. There's about 4-5 ladies on here who offer great advice and I did mention Jordana. She knows because she is from this culture and she is speaking the truth and ladies think about what she tells you.

I thank her again for being kind enough to come here to offer good advice for those in need. There are woman who have killed themselves from being used so bad. Some women on here have admitted of suicidal thoughts. Not any man no matter where he is from is going to drive me to this point. I'll end everything before I will allow this. I will not be used. I'm so much more worthy than this. I'm proud of how wiser I have became in the last two years. I'm a good woman and the Moroccan guy I was talking to called me a bad one and he has never met me. I didn't tolerate what I figured out he was trying to do. I'm in my mid thirties and that's not real young and the ones who are looking for a way out of their country will try to use women my age and much much older. I've noticed they have tried with some around their age but it failed I think due to the girls are so young and involved in a lot so they are able to let them go. No matter how beautiful you are a guy a lot younger than you is not interested in you majority of the time. He wants something else. It may even be just for sex.

Ladies I know you make not look your age but find a man in your country who you have things in common with. Let him be around your age and if he's a good man , they do exist he will treat you the way you deserve. If you're beautiful and don't look your age this man will feel he has been very blessed besides you being a good woman . I mean men around your age too. I've typed enough and I thank any of you ladies who take time to read my thoughts. I pray for you all and anyone is always welcomed here for help. It's your decision whether you take the advice but let me tell you these ladies on here have already been through it or they know the culture because it's their culture. They won't tell you wrong.

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