Situation very strange

Submitted by viraj (India), Nov 24, 2016 at 11:11

Dear Naylaa,

I had to write this second mail since there was a problem with the first one while dispatching.

I think you reconsider your divorce.Is it beyond reconciliation?Are you sure this man will be faithful,decent and make you happy?There already are some red flags noticed.Converting to another religion can create conflict in the subconscious mind .Marriages in the mosque have no legal validity and in case of a divorce,you won't be entitled to any alimony.At times these men disappear with the children.

You may be taking a great risk.If divorce is inevitable,it's still better to marry someone known and from your own culture and society.You can always seek help if and when such problems come up.

I can understand how you feel but don't let the romantic feelings override rational thinking.This man getting intimate with you only to marry you indicates manipulation.You can have sex without marriage or get married and have sex ( which shows greater respect for sanctity of marriage and commitment). Usually,Muslims who are traditional don't have sex before marriage.A Muslim can marry 4 women and yet can have other women,mind well.Best luck and be safe.

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