im married now let me up date you and advise

Submitted by anonymous reply to you (United States), Sep 28, 2016 at 15:07

I have learned a lot about Egyptian culture , the good and bad. I am actually married now, we had a huge celebration in Egypt with family. Alhamdulillah I was one of the FEW lucky ones that had a good man. the entire family has welcomed me after testing me a little (asking me to recite quran, observing me , asking many questions etc etc) I'll tell you that if I was not a practicing Muslim and so involved in my faith (I teach at Islamic school, I study Islamic studies, I wear abaya/hijab in the west, my life revolves around my faith) if I didn't have this....I don't know. The faith is #1, if you are not Muslim they will not like it. It took time for everyone to get to know me but after some time, we are all very close, all of the family not just him, we are a family . I am back in the west right now but I will be back in Egypt in a few months inshallah. I miss the family and him so bad. It takes time for visa.

This is my advice. it can turn out good....but understand I am a rare and lucky one, most are scams. Big thing is , is the family involved? if no its a scam. especially mom. so much the mom. the mom is so important. if she doesn't love you, don't do it. Does he offer you mahr? The dowry? he should if he truly loves you and is muslim he will ask. mine offered me thousands and when I tried to say this is too much he increased it and I was given gifts of jewelry , I also was able to pick out my wedding ring whatever I wanted. no my husband is not rich, I am pretty such he went completely broke to make me feel as a queen. they will do this if they love you. is he offering you a flat? a home there? he should and he should offer to make it nice for you for when you come bu tyou cant be alone until married. if he wants to be physical with you before marriage...he doesn't respect you as much as he would an Egyptian woman.

test him. tell him you think to move ot Egypt. would he like to stay in Egypt.

the culture is different. it has good and bad. I am so so blessed Alhamdulillah but I am telling you, if you are not Muslim.....I wouldn't do it.

next...some men there are not so good. some are highly controlling, HIGHLY, some are aggressive in how they talk and act. some are selfish and wont hel pth ewomen in the house (a good muslim helps his wife ause our prophet (saws) helped his wife). they are moody lol. Egyptian men are so passionate its good and bad. If they truly love you, they love so hard and so passionate and would die for you, but that also means when they get upset just leave them alone. they need their man time on their own sometimes.

learn to make good tea. (its loose leaf black tea with sugar) learn to cook (it impresses them and culturally the women often cook together) you need to be modest. if you are not muslim and still want to do this, dress modestly. you are going into a culture where the most respected women are the ones which are the most pious. the lesser you are on piety, unfortunately the less they may respect you. that is wrong islamically but that is the culture there. so if you are not pious, at least look the part for the sake of his family.

again i'll say this. if you are not muslim I would not do it. unless he is not a practicing muslim then I guess it won t matter to him.

most of the men are scammers, I would say 85-90%. I tested mine, I got to know family, I proved knowledge of my religion so I could not be taken advantage of (I know my rights in islam and I don't care what the culture says, I care what my religion says), I am strong minded but very respectful. I never ever questioned him in front of family (don't do that, it humiliates them) but when we are alone we talk so freely and he loves how strong minded I am and independent, ALSO AND THIS WAS BIG....he asked my parents blessing . a true muslim will want to get the permission of your parents, no matter how old you are, its a respect thing. my parents spent time getting to know him until they agreed and they love him. If he isnot willing to speak to your family it is a scam, an Egyptian woman would demand this and he would do it for them.

essentially if he wont give you everything he would give an Egyptian it is a lie.

if you stick with him..... next time you talk to him say " wa haj tini" it means I miss you in Arabic, it will make him smile :-)

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