Comment to Jesse

Submitted by Chelsea (United States), Sep 12, 2016 at 21:53

Thank you for your reply. Let me clarity that I never sent a dime to him overseas. I still have not even since I returned to the states. I only paid for an attorney and once I signed up I was obligated to finish with the promise of I would be paid back and he would serve me all my life. But I thought it was going to be only a two month arrangement. Yet another lie. But I did get to see they Holy Land... And some great historical sites. I consider it a two-week vacation now. So I take the good out of it... Cut my losses which is a good thing. At least I did get to see something I always wanted to see.

As I stated in my story... I went to Jordan to stay there and be with him till the end of my life. I was led to believe this and I was led to believe that everything was wonderful over there.

Since I am a God-fearing woman... Even with my mistakes... How was I supposed to get out of there if I did not marry him? After all we had already failed in the beginning. But all in all I still believed that he loved me and I was going to be with him as his wife which was stolen from me. Women are viewed as property over there and slaves to the men.

I can't begin to tell you how it felt when he gave me up so easily... Turned my joy into work for him over here in the states. A very clever move on his part. Telling me that marriage was not a game... Guilting me into keeping on working for him with an attorney. I was deceived before I went over there... I can tell you it was certainly not a game for me... Leaving my country my friends and family and everything I ever knew to go be with him because he painted such a beautiful picture of himself.

As far as being desperate for a man or a younger man... I was not actively looking when he found me even though I was at a low point in life... Really he was not that handsome he just said the right things at the right time. I am also very young looking for my age and I also do modeling when I feel like it...i don't feel quite like it right now. I am doing so much better on my own... Climbing up from the bottom... I now have a nice home and I have a lot of solitude which I cherish. I turned out better for it and stronger for it and I'm very thankful for God who has restored my life. But it doesn't matter how old you are or what you look like with these people who have no capacity to empathize sympathize or love. They are the desperate ones even though they will tell you differently.

It was not so much my body that was violated but my very soul. I was told how wonderful I was... so many promises... So much love.... I know now through my recovery realize that though I gave him up I found myself.

It was a well-executed plan on his part. But it failed. I am thankful I woke up just in time because he put me into a financial situation that could have gone on for years and I respect myself too much to let that happen to me.... And you with children need to consider the children... And believe me you have more to lose than he does. He has everything to gain and you have everything to lose.

Thank you so much for your comment... However I hope that you don't fall victim as so many others on here. You never see it coming until they plunge the knife into your heart and throw it on the sidewalk bleeding with a knife sticking out of it.

By the way... I read your comments as well... And wonder why you are here. It looks like you're looking for reassurance on a matter that you're not quite sure about. And I know that feeling too. I hate to disappoint you but I'm fairly certain he is speaking to many other women as well. I hate online relationships... I fell prey to one because of my vulnerability at the time.

Again thank you for your reply and your comfort and I wish you the best and I hope that you think through what might cost you a lot of money and a lot of sudden heartbreak. The men over there are so desperate to get out that they will say anything do anything and they are very very wise. I believe they discuss it with their friends.

I'm glad it took longer than his two month lie... this gave me the opportunity to really think about it... Get out of my denial phase. And to see that I would not financially take care of a liar. That's not what I signed up to begin with. And I have grown children...they wish me to be comfortable with my living situation and also see them work and not have entitlements that this man and his family would have had. There's a lot to think about... And I hope you do. Take care and much love... Chelsea

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