Thank you ladies

Submitted by Chelsea (United States), Sep 5, 2016 at 19:49

Thank you so much ladies for your words of encouragement. I have contemplated putting my story up for a while. This Blog has been very helpful. I have watched it for several months and even though we're all hurting it makes me feel not quite so bad anymore to know that I'm not alone in this.

People who have never been through this would not understand. So I haven't really been able to talk to anyone about all of this. This is something that I never thought would happen to me... Not being full of myself or anything but I am an educated woman and I am very much in control of myself but when we become vulnerable we are so open to these kind of things and it could happen to anyone.

I'm grateful that we have this site here that we can come to because just telling someone who understood really helped me as well. It does hurt still but I feel my backbone getting stronger. We have to look at their actions and not their words. No one who really loves you would allow you to go through that much pain on their behalf. I understand desperation for I have been there myself. But I could never use somebody's heart and lie and let them go through all of this pain especially if I love them. It's just common sense and I made a mistake... I forgive and I live well.

I found the best way was to go no contact and also be strong in prayer and decided to care about myself... To be true to myself... And that is not selfish... That is healthy... Because being true to your own self will attract what you really need in your life and also if it doesn't work out you know that you can stand on your own. But being true to yourself will help you to be more discerning about what you don't want and we have all learned to that we must not be so gullible to trust in anything without getting wisdom. I hate to see you hurting ladies because I can feel for each and everyone of you and I also hate to see people in denial because I was one of those. Now if I can help anyone just see the truth about any situation... And my story helps... I will feel that meaning and purpose has come out of my pain. I wouldn't wish the agony of all of this on anyone no matter what your age.... No matter what you look like... We are all humans ...

We are all human beings and love is based on commitment and like-mindedness and trust and spirituality and a connection but it really hurts when you think you have that and it turns out to be fake. Love is not supposed to hurt. I believe if we all just wait and if it's in the plan of God Love Will Find Us. Love to all... Chelsea

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