Thank you ALL

Submitted by Ranoosh (Australia), Sep 4, 2016 at 16:14

Thanks Darya, MLID and Unbelievable - I really appreciate your comforting words. I have no choice but to move on and heal - And I am feeling better as days go on.

Unbelievable: My father was furious and also admitted that he was decieved by him and the fact that he gave him too much credit and offered too much financial assistance & trust without guarantees - My father felt a bit guilty towards what happened to me because although he and my mother could see many faults before marriage (from the engagement period), they didn't 'stop' me enough from going further. They sure warned me about him though and they had an official talk about what they could see about him. So yeah, before the marriage my mother said to me ' I do not support this marriage - I've warned you about this guy, but you insist to live the whole experience' So, Subhanallah, my mother with her experience in life and her dealings with him in the engagement could predict he will be horrible with me - She also thought from his bickering and picking little fights here and there during the engagement and right to the last week before marriage (wedding preparation) that he was not the one for me. So, my parents could both see the true him before I married him - and tried to convince me - but I chose to marry him anyway because by that time, I was already ' deep' in feelings - So I have no one to blame but myself.

MLID: my email is jana.sanyoot@gmail.com - please send your contact details so we could talk about our experiences together- It's very hard finding people to share such experiences together and it can be quite therapeutic when you do. Thanks dear for your words

Jessie: I continued with him because like I said in my post, I was young, naive (with men) , I liked him , thought I could change him and actually had an innate fear that I won't find another man from a similar culture so I held onto him. I didn't understand the dynamics of a healthy relationship - It was my first long-term relationship with a man and prior to that I was a very home-protected 'study' type of girl - sort of new to the whole thing. Not a great excuse but I think I was too 'co-dependent', wanted to have someone regardless of how bad they were. If I knew then what would happen, I would have definitely 'run away' like you said. I am much wiser now, we live and learn.

Thanks again All.
God Bless.

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