Just feeling broken.

Submitted by ellielove (United States), Aug 27, 2016 at 21:09

I met an Egyptian online. He is in his 20s. I am 5 years older. Anyways..I met him though not on a dating site.. I was interested in the Arabic language. He offered to teach me. So we added each other on skype so it can be easier to talk. Two weeks in he introduced me to his sister without asking me, his sister right away asked all my info, my phone number. Then she said to him, go to her country, marry her. I was a bit annoyed because why she would assume, I would want to be with him. Anyways this guy and I became friends, he messaged me everyday..He questioned me a lot, what I do for a living where do I live. I was annoyed again and said dont ask anymore. He tried a few times but I told him no. after 3 weeks he invited me to his country said I should go there on vacation, I said no theres nothing there for me. Fast forward 2 months he says he likes me a lot and if I had any feelings...I said yeah as a friend because I dont know you in rl. He told me im perfect woman for him, I should accept him. I told him I can't accept him so fast because of different religion (muslim vs christian) and that he is so far away. He continued to say he would come visit me (USA).I told him I will not invite a stranger to US. He better find his own way to come to US. So he said he will. 6 months later he says I love you so much, I am in love with you, I want you to be my wife. He would come on late at night and stay up almost all night just talking about his religion and questioning mine,and small talk. how much he wants me. He never asked for money. He also said he hates US. And wouldn't want to live here anyway and he would rather stay in his country.

I told him many times he better find another woman, because I cant promise him the future. After 7months he tells me im going to buy a ring for myself I want everyone to know im taken, this is my engagement ring, I replied well I didnt say i will marry you, he said i will he can feel it. On few occations he asked for my home address to send me gifts so I said no thanks..but when his birthday came up he asked me if I would send him a letter or a card, I said sure (he made me feel sad that night saying why I dont trust him that I dont care about him, so I agreed to sending him and I DID )Fast forward to 8 months he introduced me to his mom,(without asking me) then his mom said to him from our first talk. oh you should marry her. I was annoyed because how can she say that if she doesnt know me?! but he said see my family loves you. etc.

Then his mom started asking to speak to me everyday.....after 3 days. I stop all communication. I took a week away to think whats going on. I end up telling him sorry I dont think I can accept this religion part of my life and I dont feel there is a future. I basically end everything.. after few days he sends me a pic of the ring he got.. then just starts being cold. He stopped wanting to talk he has no time to talk.. I just want to know is it normal for a man to buy himself a ring? his family wanting to marry me? and he said how much he loves me, now he just gave up? Im very sad because I thought he cares and really loved me. Even the time he use to talk to me, he right away replaced it with work he said. I told him im hurting, he doesnt want to talk about why or anything. anyone else had a guy do that????? I gave him my address and phone number ( I know dumb) but I wanted him to know I trust him. Im broken and confused why he gave up so quickly.

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