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We met onlineReader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by Becca (United Kingdom), Jun 7, 2016 at 13:00 Hello Everyone! Thank you all for posting your comments and experiences on this site I have found that this has truly helped me with regards to my current situation. So here we go, back in April (roughly mid April or towards the end of April) I was on a dating website not looking for anything just checking one out in my spare time to see if I could potentially talk to anyone that shared the same interests as me. Unfortunately, I didn't have much luck as many people didn't really access his site because it's not a well-known site like Badoo or Plenty of Fish. As a result, I planned to delete my account on the website a couple days after activating it until I received a message from a guy (Moroccan) who lives in Kenitra. He popped up to me with a casual 'hello how are you?' Being the person I am I was just going to ignore it and delete the site as I have no time for that common kind of talk it's not exciting to me I would much rather an opening question like 'what's your favourite movie?' Instead of this boring message. Despite this, i checked his profile out found him slightly attractive and responded to him. After a long 2 hour conversation I explained that I am going to delete my account so he asked for my Facebook I gave it to him. Ever since we haven't stopped talking there is not a day that goes by where we don't text even if it's to ask how I am. I am not the type to chase after guys so 98% of the time when we have a conversation it's usually him that initiates the first message. It is quite surprising that to this day we still speak seeing as I am not looking for a relationship right now but at the same time if I liked someone enough I would probably be more open to the idea? Anyway, until speaking with him I haven't really found Moroccan men attractive it is just how I am maybe because I don't really see any Moroccans to have the opposite opinion of them? I do have one Moroccan friend that I have known for over a year and we are both from the UK we met at university. I am going slightly off topic (sorry) so this guy I have been talking to I would say 80% of our conversations are through Skype and everytime we speak it's like we have something new/funny to say everytime. Before meeting him me and my two friends (one I have known for 8 years and the other my Moroccan friend) have booked and planned a trip to Morocco back in February for July 2016. I am planning on meeting up with this guy that I met online just to see if we get on the same as we do so well talking over the phone, whatsapp and Facebook. So now let me explain about him: He has NEVER once spoke about wanting to get married he is currently at university it looks as if he comes from a good family background his dad is in a hard well paid job and his mother does not work (I think that is a traditional thing). Due to the circumstances in Morocco in terms of the jobs available he is planning on moving to Belgium roughly towards the end of this year or early next year to transfer universities and pursue his degree so that he can hopefully get a good job there (as a placement it will be part of his degree programme). He has sisters all of them live outside of Morocco they are all married too and one of his sisters live in Belgium. In terms of how he is towards me he has never asked about what England is like noor has he told me he loves me. I asked him what is his intentions with me he simply says that he would like to hopefully meet up with me to see if there is a spark but my problem with that is what if there is? He does not live nearby and I am not the one for long distance relationships! If he does come to Belgium however I may be lenient IF anything is to become of this. I forgot to add that he has already sorted out his papers for transferring to a university in Belgium so he should be hearing back from them pretty soon that to me shows that he really is determined to make better of his current situation. When we do talk we talk about a lot of in-depth subjects like conspiracy theories, movies and we have a lot of banter about random stuff haha. Sometimes we do say that we miss each other if we don't speak for say 2 days due to it being exam period for him but that's only because we are soooo used to talking! He has told me that he likes me a lot and I do like him but I'm not sure in what way after speaking with me for awhile he did delete his dating account back in May! He does say his family is quite chilled and I have noticed that he does not practice his religion as such although he is fasting which I find pretty odd but maybe he's doing that for the sake of his family not for his own personal and religious fulfilment? Anyway, I have told my two friends about him and they have both said the only way to know if he is genuine is to pursue the meet up to see how he truly is/acts towards you. My friends are not the type to see someone blatantly take me for granted or use me and not say anything or even fight so you could say I have really good friends haha! He is pretty familiar with Marrakech and he has offered to take us all out for dinner when we meet so he doesn't want to meet me alone he wants my friends to be there at all times too. I've made it CRYSTAL CLEAR that I am not after a one night stand or casual sexy it's just not in my nature being raised the way I was he said that he totally respects that and what ever I want he will totally expect it. I have been told many times that I am very attractive and my brother did have a go at me for going on dating sites because he says that I am more than capable of finding someone the 'normal way' but with the advancements in today's society technology tends to be the mechanism that brings everyone together so I thought why not try? I forgot to add that I am 20 (21 this year) and he is 25 (26 this year) I tend to go for guys slightly older than me if I was to date anyone anyway it's just how I am I guess it is because I am very mature for my age and a lot of people say I am wise (not so wise in this case lol) and give amazing advice when I feel that something is not right or something is fishy I ALWAYS follow my gut 1000% but with this situation I'm not sure and would love some advice from you all. Please get back to me ladies. Becca :) Submitting....
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