Let go of this illusion of love

Submitted by Cynthia (United States), May 26, 2016 at 09:24

Hi Anne,

I'm sorry to read your story. All of them are like you described. They are always right they think. They act as though they are perfect. They put down westerns saying we're all addicted to sex if you're not a virgin but yet they want you to take your clothes off on cam, send them nude pics, they watch porn. Majority of the younger ones are perverts. Don't let him string along with the things he tells you. You're addicted by his sweet words because he tells you exactly what you want to hear.

They are tall, dark, handsome and put us westerners in a brainwashed state of mind like someone else on here stated. Sometimes they tell you they are a virgin and later tell on themselves. I found out mine lost his last girlfriend because word got out he had sex with a French girl. He also told me things he had done forgetting he had told me he was a virgin. They are controlling. They will tell you what you can wear, eat, who your friends can be. The jealousy is ridiculous but they can do whatever they want. If you are with them in reality and you say something to them that they consider out of standard for a woman to say you will pay the consequences.

My advice is to stay away from him. Majority in my opinion are dangerous. Their mentality is not anything like a westerners. They will cause you to develop a low self esteem which is what they want because it gives them more control over you. He is an illusion and you can't truly love someone just by talking to them and not spending time with them.

Put him out of your life 100%. Consider yourself blessed to not have experienced some of the horrific things they can do to you. Trust me you'll be glad you got rid of him in the long run. Find someone who you have culture, religion , ways of life in common. Life is hard enough without having a hot tempered , controlling , deceiving man in your life who will make you wish you were dead. Please take my advice and take in consideration of the stories you have read on here and spare yourself. It doesn't get better only worse. I promise in time you will get over him.

Best wishes to you and let us know what you decide.

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