To Not Sure

Submitted by Hope (United Kingdom), May 16, 2016 at 14:49

Do not beat yourself up about all of this (you are not alone) - though we all do and I did too re my situation. You are not an idiot and have to understand that we are genuine people but they are not. You have to question people who act like this and also involve their families - both male and female. Would we behave in the same manner as individuals or if our brother or sisters were trying to scam an innocent person - No! It is totally unbelievable. Integrity is everything and they do not know the meaning of the word. It is better that you know the truth however much it hurts because it helps you bring closure on a traumatic situation and you can then start to draw a line under the whole episode.

Your questions have been answered. Be thankful that you are free from this mess and can make a new / better life going forward with people who have the same values, can trust, are honest. Know that we are whole people and deserve to be treated so much better than any of the nasty behaviour muted out by them. You will question who you are, why you fell for their tricks but remember they are professionals and they are just trying to better their lives and those of their families by using decent innocent people for financial gain / visas. We are just pawns in their game. Go forth, recover, live the life you deserve and be happy!

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