Libyan male

Submitted by Daria (United States), Feb 29, 2016 at 01:37

I met this cute, Libyan guy via Facebook. He sent me a message saying "hello and telling where he was from and how he wanted to get to know me" I don't know why the hell I responded. I figured, what's the worse that can happen?

We talked via messenger everyday and saw each other via the webcam. At first we talked about random things nothing romantic, then one day all of a sudden after like the 3rd or 4th day he starts asking me personal questions regarding my sex life. I was so offended! I really was starting to consider him cute but when he came at me like that I started hesitating because I know that Arab males have a bad misconception of western women. I explained to him that I was furious and to stop with the sexual content. He apologized and even sent me a video of him asking for forgiveness etc. I fell for it.

He then started telling me that he thought I was beautiful, gorgeous everything you can think of he said to me. I fell for it. I too eventually gave in and it was so emotional we even talked about meeting in Egypt for the summer. He then after like 3 weeks of chatting proposed marriage which I made clear I was not going there. I don't even know why I continued speaking to him but I really was dumbfounded by his romantic words and how cute and sexy he was. Typical Arab male, with green eyes.

I met him on the 20th of December and just last week we ended everything. He all of a sudden told me he would not be able to connect to the Internet for a week because he was busy with school etc, but me being so wrapped around his finger started Facebook stalking his ass and noticed he was on fb but ignoring my messages. I confronted him and he said a whole bunch of bs, saying his mom was ill etc. I told him I wanted to end everything because this was not working but he insisted he never ignored me and loved me. I fell for it, again.

When everything was slowly going back to "normal" he messages me giving me an ultimatum to marry him. I told him I had to meet him first he explained how his religion did not allow this, that he could only be with me if we married. He started to be less romantic with his messages and they were less frequent. I was freakin out because I'm still head over heels for this guy so I kept insisting on waiting to meet first etc. just a few days ago he messaged me that he was now courting a girl and was "preaching" her family for marriage. I've never felt so stupid. The girl is obviously a Muslim, 18 year old virgin he is 25. I've never felt so horrible and rejected.

To top it all off he told me that it's me who he loves yet he does not act in love with me by pushing me to the side for over a week and refusing to wait for me. At this point I feel used and degraded, but at least I never spent money on his ass nor did I sleep with him. What hurts the most is that I could have ended this when I brought it up, but he convinced me not to, then a week after he drops this bomb.

At this point all I can say is be careful of who contacts you via fb and think twice if it's a Muslim, male. He was a dedicated Muslim, prayed 5x a day no alcohol eye. He also spoke no English so we communicated via a translator and when we saw each other it was broken English. Still I put that aside because I really liked him and he was slowly picking up English. Any opinions I will appreciate. By the was his name is Hashem in case he contacts you.

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