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Myth of Good Relationships Discussed On-lineReader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Oct 23, 2015 at 21:58 I don't really want to deal with questions from anyone who is sending money to someone that they never met, or someone who has actually never met in person their "one" because I feel that automatically sets my experience too far apart from what they are going through so my advice or even input would not be helpful. Never send money to a romantic partner. If either partner is offering to pay for expensive things without at least an engagement it's problem. However, I am married to a Muslim Egytian man that I met in Las Vegas on a holiday. We only spent a few hours together, and I left the next day for home (in spite that he attempted to pay for me and my friend to stay in a hotel until he left for New York, and re-arrange our flights). We spent 9 months communicating online/phone and when he eventually realized that I would not move to Egypt - he surprised me by moving here. I am very concerned about these circumstances, Luhx. And as I said, offering to pay for someone like he did for you and your friend in a hotel is a cause for concern as well. I should be clear that he is not poor, comes from a family that is well off and has a very profitable career in finance. I suspect most of the men on here are somewhat well off compared to many other Muslims in the Middle East, especially if they have internet access and know more than one language. I should also be clear that while we are happy, we have had our problems and I am willing to be honest about that if asked. Good, because I asked questions in another post. I just feel like there should be at least a couple people who come here to post their POSITIVE experiences with marrying outside of their religion and their culture... I'm tired of coming here and seeing such tragic stories, and such a narrow view on middle eastern men in general. I've heard this all before on here in so many words, and I've already debunked the "good stories" myth. You've already said that people who are in good relationships do need to defend their relationships on-line, which makes me wonder why you are on here caring what people say and think if your marriage is valid and decent----and conceding that there are some problems isn't sufficient. Other women on here have said the same things you have, Luhx, and have defended their relationships. If I were to look, some of them are now single. In fact, in one case, it appeared that a man was cheating on her, maybe even as she writing posts on here defending him. Could you please elaborate what you mean as a "narrow view on Middle Eastern men?" Surely, you don't mean the women who ditch their men because they ask for money on-line in a sob story or the men who marry them and then leave the women after they get their citizenship all neatly squared away? I have said SEVERAL times, Luhx, that much of the nonsense described on here goes far beyond Muslim in the Middle East, but if you're just looking to use perceived negative comments about Muslim men as a means to continue a relationship, it could demonstrate that your marriage is not solid. I also would be willing to share my facebook, which has a more personal look into my relationship and experience. Again, nothing new. Showing off your relationship (if that is what is happening) just can demonstrate that it doesn't have lots of merit to stand on its own, and putting up photos on social media of happy moments to get likes, upvotes and other approval isn't necessary for solid marriages and doesn't validate the marriage itself. As far as good moments go, even abusive relationships have good moments that may be posted on facebook. Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Original writing only, please. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. Reasoned disagreement is welcome but not comments that are scurrilous, off-topic, commercial, disparaging religions, or otherwise inappropriate. For complete regulations, see the "Guidelines for Reader Comments". Reader comments (21923) on this item
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