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Muslim Boyfriend - Does he needs something from me?Reader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by Avril (Mexico), Oct 6, 2015 at 10:57 I have read a lot of comments here.. Im shocked.. So i'll try to explain my situation very detailed, because some things here don't match with what i read. I met online a Pakistani muslim man about 4 months ago... He left his country by his own 6 years ago looking for a better life and moved to Canada, he did a masters degree there and works now as chemical engineer. We both are 31 years old. We were friends at the beginning... Then he melted me with all his compliments and words of love, -just like the stories of other comments here- he wanted to come in October or November for a week to meet me to Mexico, where i live. And his idea was that if we like each other, then i could go to Canada for some months and we will find out if we can work well as a couple to then get married. The whole idea sound a little crazy for me, because i believed that we don't know each other and that he could not be in love with me at that level. Then after a couple of months talking to him -some days for several hours until very late at night- i discovered a wonderful man and human being that cares about others, about environment, about his own health and about world's political issues. I fell in love. When i started to be more sweet with him, because i was already in love, he stopped to talk about all his hasty plans about a future for us, so i asked him what was going on... He replied that, now that he is able to travel out of Canada -because he already got his Canadian citizens paper- his mother started to call him very often to ask him to go to Pakistan and get married with the woman that his family chose for him. And that all this situation keeps him very confused about us and about his family request. He know this girl since childhood and he said he doesn't want to marry her, because they are not compatibles, but that the fact that he don't marry her will be a huge insult to his family and that they (parents and relatives) will cut all contact to him and all his descendent forever. He is a very devoted muslim, good son and very close to his family... So every time when i ask him what will be his decision he just says.. I don't know, i don't know about future. It is like he doesn't want even think about that for now. About that, the mother knows that he wont move back to Pakistan, so after the weeding he should take his Pakistani wife to Canada. Well.. He has been thinking how he could be together... Thinking so hard about something that looks impossible, that once he reached the point to share with me what he called "not a plan but a selfish and dumb idea" that was that he come to Mexico, we get married in secret and then he marry that woman in Pakistan and try to manage both families... But with me staying in Mexico and the Pakistani woman living with him in Canada! Omg! Of course i say no and explain him all what was wrong with the whole idea. How are things now... Well he still write to me every day, but not that often and for that long as the past months... He is still very sweet when we talk, and some days he share with me all what he did during day.. But other days he doesn't. And he don't talk or answer to me during night as he used to do. And never talked again about me visiting him to Canada. And by the way, at the beginning we had a kind of video talked sex twice, but i got angry because the last time after we finished he got busy and left instead of stay for a little more with me. So the next time he said... "We wont do it any more because that is not good for you and you body deserve love in a real way, not text or camera..." So we will wait until we meet in person. So.. If he is not looking for citizen papers, sex, or money (in fact he said if i go to Canada i will just have to pay the plane ticket) ... What is going on here... Should i trust? Could he has a hidden purpose? I know and can feel that there is like a 90 percent of chance that at the end he marry that Pakistani woman... And I'm prepared for that even if he comes and we spend that week together... But then why is he still keeping this relationship with me? Could be his love something real? Submitting....
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