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Saved just in the knick of time.Reader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by NaiveAmericanWoman (United States), Aug 29, 2015 at 20:13 I've been reading all the stories for days and days now. I am too charmed by the Egyptian men. I always was so interested in their ancient culture. It's a very long story... It all started about 4 years ago. I was in a very vulnerable state. My son was in the hospital and my husband was working a lot, and started drinking a lot. I felt very alone because I lived at the hospital with no help. My husband did what he could, but could only do so much. I resented him very much because of the drinking too. So we grew apart. I am also a cult survivor so I am shunned from my family and community. I married a non Christian which didn't sit right with my family. So in one of my lonely states I started to chat during the night at the hospital. I couldn't sleep anyway. I met Mohammed from Mansoura. A charming and serious man, a few years younger than me. I was impressed because we had a very intellectual conversation also he never asked to see me on camera. I explained my situation about my son and I was a lonely married woman. I wasn't looking for love or anything serious, just wanted friendship and company in my lonely time. We continued talking daily. I looked forward to our conversations. We progressed quickly and I started to develop very strong feelings for him. He was very sweet with his words and always forgave me so easily. I loved it about him. He was very jealous which I adored because I never felt that with American men. We finally had our first video chat within a few days, and I was head over heels. He expressed same feelings for me. I would say after about three months or so we were talking marriage, and our plans. He wanted me to leave my husband and bring my son and we could come back to USA, he could work hard and take care of me. I was actually planning in my head how to let me husband down easily. In this process I had plenty of warning signs which I ignored. He was extremely jealous and controlling. He wanted all my passwords for all my social media sites and email accounts and so on. I did not like that feeling at all. I had his too, but I am not a jealous person. I do think that people of the opposite sex are capable of being friends without having any sexual feelings. He had girls that were friends and I knew it and didn't say anything. He was either really good at hiding, or I was just completely obvlivious. Or both... Most of them were from USA or UK. But I had relatives and friends of my family or people I went to high school with that I had to delete!!!!! After about a year I hesitated a lot, and it was very stressful on my life. I was essentially cheating on my husband. (We were never sexual on our chats, so I always respected him for that.) Finally guilt set in, and I fessed up to my husband and I told him what had happened and that I loved him very much and wanted to go to Egypt. My husband is a Muslim from Pakistan, but he is liberal and very easy going and Americanized. I am free to leave the house, he is a wonderful father and provider. Sure we had our issues and he drinks a little too much, but he's never broken my privacy, and has always compromised with me. He is very open with me and honest, and let's me chose my life. He was of course upset and hurt, but also very concerned about me. He asked me to research on the internet how many women were scammed by Egyptian men. That majority of them only use white women for a Visa, and money. I of course did not believe him, but I didn't want to leave my husband, and decided to end it with Mohammed and work things out with my husband. Mohammed let me go but not without a fight. We didn't talk for 2 years. Out of the blue 2 years later I got a message from Mohammed. And we talked for a few months, but I let him go again. Then out of the blue a year later we talked and I fell in love naively all over again. I had my second child. My beautiful daughter whom I adore. She has made all my days so bright and she is so sweet. He met her on skype. He said he wanted me to bring her there and he loved her so much. I cannot believe I did that! I tried to test him by acting as another girl on the net. I tried my hardest to get him to turn on his cam and flirt with me, but he didn't take the bait. He was finishing his military duty, as it is mandatory in Egypt to train before a certain age. He was trying to hurry me to Egypt to marry him so he didn't have to finish the duty and could leave to USA. I was reluctant. He was always rushing me, but I wanted things to be gradual and not sudden because I had two children. I did not want to uproot their lives and change everything familiar to them. So he left for four months on a military training. Thank god he did because I was able to think clearly again. Without all the manipulation it hardened me. I did a lot of research about Egypt meanwhile. About their culture, customs and traditions. It was him after all who told me to really thing about my decision. That everything in Egypt would be different and maybe I would regret my decision. In researching I found out about Female Genital Mutilation. That it was a common practice there. It is illegal, but a lot of families still practice this barbaric custom! For those that don't know what it is: {It is common belief that the clitoris is what gives a woman desire, and that if a woman has her clitoris intact, she will "rape" a man! If you cut it, her desire is gone. But many young girls have died due to bleeding too much because they will get in trouble if the family brings her to a hospital.} My hear fell to the floor!! I almost brought my daughter to a country that would punish her for being a girl. Then the more I read I discovered Egypt was a horrible place for women. Women are treated like second class, like a prize that is easily thrown away. Men are allowed to have multiple wives and they are not tested for virginity. But the women are beaten for even looking at a man! For some reason, I could never completely get rid of him. I kept going back. He was such a good talker and charmer. I was addicted. I was also very blind about his control and moodiness and jealousy. I think the last straw for me was when he got so angry at me for talking to my business partner, who was my nephew. I finally got the strength to leave him. In fact I blocked him, and I am 100% confident that I will stay away from him. I thought my Mohammed Abd El Monem was so different. I thought he was one of the good ones. I read all these stories and said, "no he's different." But he's not. I almost made the biggest mistake of my life. I almost moved to a country where I had no freedom, or rights. Also, I was a married woman. No egyptian man would ever respect a married woman talking to another man. He thinks she is a whore! I am thankful for all the stories I read here, and I am so sorry and heartbroken for the ladies who were scammed by these poor excuses for human beings. I know not all Egyptian men are bad, but it's an issue of mentality. They are taught to treat women this way, and that a western woman is easy and trash that they can expose of easily. I am so happy I came to my senses before bringing my 6 year old and my 2 year old to that awful shithole. Be warned ladies, and do not make a mistake. It is a dark path and a long battle that is hard to overcome. That is my story, it could have been worse, but I got out. Many did not! Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Original writing only, please. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. 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