same situation

Submitted by Sara (New Zealand), Apr 2, 2015 at 01:33

i am soo sorry for wat happened to u. similar situation happened to me. except mine was an arranged marriage i trusted my parents that much. we got married and none of my friends knew as i got married in his country. i asked him why marry a girl from a western country wen u can get a beutiful girl here and he said all i coluld think of was going to a western country. he didnt care about marrying at all but marrying someone for a western country. and it hurt so bad. but the only thing that kept me going was that he kept telling me he loved and was such a sweetheart. i went back to nz and his visa application got declined twice and missed him so much

so 2 years later i decided to go myself and apply for a different visa. i did and it was successful. now that we are together he hates living here. and i am actually happy that he got punished for wanting such a thing as now he realises he hates it in a foreign country but he still says he wanted to go to a western country but he still loves me. i cant come to the fact that i love so much. i just feel like i HAVE to love him. but it feels like i really dont beacuse he is not that soemone that makes me feel special or the one i fell for or fell for me. in other words love at first sight. i regret everything that i ever did every decision.

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