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Get yourself out now CatherineReader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by Jennifer (United States), Feb 8, 2015 at 13:41 Hi Catherine, I'm going to get right to the point. I was married to a Muslim man from Algeria. We were married for 3 years too long. It's the biggest mistake I ever made. You said this guy is more than 10 years younger than you. Why would any man marry a woman that much older than them? The chances of it working are 3%. You come from different cultures and religion. These are very difficult and you cannot change a Muslim man's beliefs. Women are not looked upon highly like they are in Western countries. It's true in their culture women and men do not socialize in any way. It's so different in the East and N. Africa. Majority will always hide their friends list on a social media and normally when they do that it's because they have other women they are talking to and they do not want you to know about it. My ex husband cheated on me online many many times and also cheated on me in reality. He treated me like a queen and told me a hundred times a day how much he loved me. This was online. We met a few times but it would only be for a few days. When he came to the U.S. with a K1 visa I didn't know who he was anymore. My hell began as soon as he got here but I thought it was from him trying to adjust "culture shock". He lied to me about everything I ever knew of him. He lied to me about being in love with me. I was 5 years older than him. He used me for the visa but his plans didn't work out. I became strong and wise. Thank God I was in my country because if I had been in his I would not have been as lucky. When we divorced he had to go back to Algeria. His parents never liked me and didn't know about me until after our marriage. He told me we would meet soon. I kept hearing that story. I was blinded by what I thought was love. I was in fact brain washed by him. I think your guy is most likely hiding you from his sister. If you met him online at the first of January this is not love. You have to physically be around someone to come to that decision. Catherine I suggest you call things off with him because you will end up with a broken heart. Find a man from your background, culture, religion. Life, marriage are hard as it is. All these factors are more to take on and it's difficult to make it work. In your story there are many red flags. Age difference , he's secretive, just stop and think. Save yourself from a heartbreak and financial debt because that will probably be next. If you married him and lived in his country you would be his way for everything. You do what he says and will eventually have to convert. He can take your visa from you. The embassy will not be much help to you at all. You won't know the language either and this is more stress added. Arabs are very jealous people and will not allow you to have contact with any other men at all. He can choose your female friends. Mine did and I know of some others who experienced the same. You will go from being his queen to feeling you're being disciplined as a child would be. I hope I have been some help to you because I've told you the truth. There's a lot I could tell but I can't tell everything on here. It wouldn't be suitable. I wish you all the luck with this and you have my prayers. If you would like more information from me please let me know. Another fact to add is if he comes to live in your country and you get married it will be difficult for him to find a good job if he doesn't speak English well. You will be the main provider. Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Original writing only, please. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. Reasoned disagreement is welcome but not comments that are scurrilous, off-topic, commercial, disparaging religions, or otherwise inappropriate. For complete regulations, see the "Guidelines for Reader Comments". Reader comments (21923) on this item
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