same here

Submitted by misty (United States), Jan 31, 2015 at 02:28

First let me say, I am so sorry this happened to you.. I know exactly how you feel! I met Satnam, online thru Facebook, 2 years ago.. He messaged me, and I had no clue who he was or how he found me. I began talking to him, he reassured me that he didn't want money, he had plenty himself. He said he had his own company, was single, and lived alone... He said Indian women, were cold and boring. He claimed he was very religious, and often spoke of his "master". He always talked about bad karma.. He seemed so innocent and sweet! Now I always used to laugh at people when they would say they fell in love with someone online, let alone another country! But something about that man hooked me within days! I was in love! Deeper than I had ever been before! I was so shocked! I kept asking myself, "how did this happen?" I loved him so much!

Because of his supposed religion, I often felt like I was no good for him, but he reassured me that I was his soulmate and he wanted to come to America and marrry me. He said his family mistreated him and they loved his brother more! He also, like your situation, kept me A secret.. He said his brother found out about me and told his parents, and that they hated me.. And forbid him to have any contact with me.. In which he obeyed them for 2 weeks.. I was so lost without him during that time! But then he contacted me and apologized and said that he would sneak and talk to me until his visa was issued to come to me.. After a while he asked me to come to India, and bring my children.. He said he would pay for everything and that I would be wealthy and happy there..But I never agreed and always told him no... Strangely, he never ask me for money.. He actually spent lots on me and my children.. Shoes (Nike) for my son, clothes for my daughter (from justice),clothes for myself, he bought me a Samsung tablet, he bought gifts for my mom.. I mean he gave me and my son his credit card info and would let us shop for ourselves! But, it all came to an end on 01/24/15.. We had our normal late note text.. His last words were that he loved me.. The next few days ahead I didn't hear from him, (which was completly abnormal! We talked every day.. Whether it was a phone call, Skype, Or texting thru apps like viber or whatsapp)... I went from, concerned, to worried, to terrified! I then remembered he had a second Facebook for family, friends and his religion..

However I also discovered that he had now blocked me from it.. So I created a second Facebook and found him! Guess what!? On 01/25/15, his first child was born!!!!! Which also means he is married! Because in India, couples do not have children out of wedlock! I am so lost! My heart is not just broken, its shattered! I never imagined this would happen! I would love to talk with anyone who has dealt with anything like this.. How do I heal from this????

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