Very true- beware of Sharm men

Submitted by anon (United Kingdom), Jan 31, 2015 at 01:26

God, it was like pretty much reading everything that's happened to me!-aside the violence (luckily) although it'd probably have come to that if I did marry the guy.
I completely agree...the majority of these guys feel no shame or remorse at ALL in cheating on their women. I've been cheated on for the past year and a half by an Egyptian guy who's gone from Russian-to-Russian behind my back and also quite blatantly in my face- even getting one pregnant.

So here's my story;

I met this guy when I was feeling down and out from the end of a past on and off relationship and then I met this guy- he was so flattering and wonderful saying all thr gith things. To his dismay I didn't return to Egypt as soon as he'd liked although we were deeming ourselves 'an item'. I'd see photos plastered over his facebook with different Russian girls-all creepily similar looking.
He then said "you didn't come back for me, all my friends were mocking me so I wanted to find a girl who loves me-you obviously don't love me!"
I pleaded with him and simply couldn't understand his logic?! I was so hurt. So he started seeing another Russian girl who went back twice or so for him-who it turns out was in a relationship of 4 years anyway(?) Everytime she flew back he'd be on the prowl for more girls to have sex with.

*and might I add a lot of the guys in Sharms' trick is to get a girl to go back to one of the resorts and they'd say 'habibi, the room is £300, pay half?' the room will be ~£150 and they POCKET the rest*

He proposed to this girl, still whilst trying to woo me behind he back saying he was sorry and that he loved me... he then dumped her and jumped into bed with Russian lady no.2 the next day who really is vile and was plotting her moves despite meeting the girlfriend.
They all buggered off and we officially got back together, everything was good, although I knew the proof would be in the pudding when I finally got to see him again and actually stay with him. Apparrently he was slow-dancing with and chatting up a lady the night I arrived but hey.

I got there, we had an amazing time, like I'd known him forever; very fun, very understanding, very loving... we got engaged. He'd called my mother and asked for my hand... a week later my friend who lives out in Sharm informs me he's getting it on with an English girl.
I'm aware this sounds RIDICULOUS, but they're so convincing, and when you doubt them, question them and confront them they have this great knack at turning it round and making you feel like you're in the wrong and you 'don't love them' or 'have faith in your man'.
So anyway we resolved this issue... there was no proof they had sex. Couldn't get any proof. everything is great for the next few months (obviously long distance, chatting all day everyday). Booked the next trip to Sharm.

I notice the vile Russian lady has been posting very suggestive 'I miss you' 'soon' 'love you' facebook and instagram posts which leads me to believe they'd been in contact. She knew very well we were engaged. Turns out she stayed there a month, I watched behind my computer screen as photo after photo went up on this girl's page learning she was nearer to her target.
Him and I had a fall-out, about trying to get him into an EU country, he'd given up and couldn't be bothered. I later found out he'd drowned his sorrows in bed with her.

Again, stupidly, he got round me-but not for a little while. I told him never to speak to the woman again otherwise it was over.
I wanted my holiday I wasn't going to lose my money- I was at the time a student (hence why I was back and forth there).
July came I'd had a very rough time before the holiday-bad family issues which didn't help. He was SO argumentative nothing like before.
Like you- he'd say 'you're not wearing that' and they were baggy as hell harem pants. Apparently you could see my butt?? He bullied me and delivered me a lecture on how I wore my bikini like a 'sharmuta' (whore) and how all his friends will think I am a whore (even though there was nobody there he knew).
It was a miserable time at home, in front of others he would smile act like we were golden-although I was only now allowed to knod and say 'hello' to his friends and his friend's wife.

In the mean time- the first Russian lady he was dating was 7 moths pregnant with his baby.

I have many gay friends, and I had made him fully aware I was going to GAY Pride celebrations-the park, live music and bbq- not the clubs at night. He chose to forget this, went ABSOLUTELY bananas and taunted me saying 'I spoke to the girl (whore who he cheated on me with) last night'.

I slammed the phone down and finished with him... she flew out there to live with him like a little lap dog who couldn't even speak his language0they had no language in which to communicate simple Google Translate all day.

To cut long story short I flew back out there we hooked back up whilst he was still with this woman and he begged me to marry him-and I nearly did- nearly went to Cairo on the spot but something came up on my part. I said I'd return in 2 months and marry him so long as the girl was long gone because she partly caused the trouble, too.
They convince you, 'yes I love you, you do everything for ME, I do everything for YOU.'
his requests included
- delete ALL males from facebook ALL-even your boss and colleagues- even the kids of family friends
- get a private instagram have NO male followers and follow NO males- also cover up in your photos
- I know very well it's fine for Muslims to marry Christians- but yes, revert to Islam.
- ditch ALL your male friends-even if they're gay.

I know these are things very commonly practised by Muslim girls and that's the only way they've known--and that's fine. But this was getting FORCED on me, I lost friends, I had criticism from my family and ALSO... his social media accounts were still fully loaded with scantily-clad Russian ladies he'd slept with and cheated £100 out of each night he spent with them!

1) They work their way round you- they'll even use the 'I'll kill myself' line.
2) All their friends back them up- his best friend is married he told me when the wife goes to work he brings girls back to their HOME and has sex with them.
3) All their friends will say 'nooo he loves JUST you' when they will be the ones walking him back to the hotel with the lastest girl they pick up.

Sharm RUINS these men.
'My' (if you could've ever called him that) man, never had, had a drop of alcohol before he worked in Sharm. He was a virgin.
Although he still had a pretty headstrong mentality that men were better than women.

Ahhhhhhhhh I could go on.

It's long-winded but I shared this because it's SO easy to get sucked in by these guys, yes a small fraction of these men are genuine, but not many.

p.s. the vile lady has since agreed to marry the guy- despite having proof he was
-religiously calling me, sending me graphic photos and videos behind her back,
-begging me to return to Egypt asap to marry
-mocking her appearance and
- flirting with the ex who's the mother of his child.

...because she obviously feels like she is wonderful enough to make an honest man of him.

If you're thinking of getting involved-don't. They're mostly all liars.

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