Posting Privileges & Cutting to the Chase

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), May 11, 2014 at 13:21

First of all, I sit squarely inside your camp -- you are preaching to the choir in me with your disbelief about how nasty some of the comments are on here.

It is always helpful to specify comments when making such generalizations. Otherwise, it just looks like you're trying to get jabs in.

I hope, Sue, you are not referring to comments that tell women who are well over 40 or 50 that sending money to a man young enough to be their son in another country is a bad idea?

However, with that said, this website appears to help some folks gain more clarity regarding relationships that truly are not good/healthy –

It's not really healthy or even normal for someone to run around the internet defending his/her relationship and worrying about what total strangers think; unfortunately, this is evolving yet again on this thread. As such, readers should be skeptical of what is said by those who have to come on-line and defend their relationships or romantic situations.

some females have been really burned by some men in some of the places you read about on this website.

FYI: acknowledgement of other failed relationships does not mean yours or someone else's is valid.

Additionally, though, there is something that troubles me with some of the repeat responders,

Please elaborate on who these individuals are.

It begs the question: does it trouble you because the warning signs also apply in your case, Sue?

and that is their intolerance for responses such as yours.

Well-founded counterpoints are not intolerance.

Specifically, I find this line of thinking to be an attempt to quiet you; here's what I am talking about:

"This line of thinking" is about finding and telling the truth, not making excuses for bad relationships simply because a few frustrated women throw in a few adjectives after getting burned.

From STL: "I'm wondering, Ashley, why you would even need to come on here and say such things and defend Turkish men in general. Merits should speak for themselves."

Did you even understand this point? I think sometimes when quotes are repeated like this on-line with a substantive response it means that they were not considered and/or understood.

If her relationship is so great, why does she (or anyone else for that matter) need to come on here and tell us about it? Why would she even care what we think?

Notice how Muslim women living in Africa or the Middle East are not the ones on here defending their relationships. It's predominantly older Western women.

I think that you have as much right to post here as anyone else. What do you think?

This isn't about a "right" to post, Sue. No one has a "right" to post on a website; it's a privilege. I do not control what gets posted on here other than what I write. Like every other regular user, my comments are subject to moderation.

Instead of cheering on any and every comment that is critical of the general themes on this forum, I think you need to re-examine your own situation and note the obvious warning signs previously described on here. You're giving me the impression that you need to cling to any scrap of what is marketed or dressed up as hope that emerges, and if it's for your own relationship, Sue, how good can it really be?

Sue, you're not presenting anything new, unique or special here, and I hope you're not sending money to a man abroad who is scamming you.

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