Tulle you must walk away..!!

Submitted by Becs (United Kingdom), Dec 30, 2013 at 19:13

Hi Tulle sorry for the delay in getting back to you.. I can imagine now your head is spinning so much and as you say you are split in two as you had feelings for him.. But you must realise what words and acts of romance he is using on you he has used to many many women before including my friend!! Do you mean this November you met him? He past his instructor course much earlier this year.. The English woman he tells you he was "married to" is my friend Gemma! They were only married by orfi marriage and therefore it's not actually real!! It's just paper you have to obtain in order to live together..!! With regards to money it is utter crap her drinking caused him daily struggles! My friend actually paid for the apartment rent every month.. She paid for his instructor course in fact she pretty much paid for everything! He then sat back and never bothered to work as clearly he thought he had found a cash cow!! He did get very jealous and possessive..

We were not allowed to hang out together only if both him and my ex were there to supervise!! Believe me the violence does come.. I never thought mine would get violent he treated me like a queen in the beginning as they all do if you read the stories.. But it does come.. Maybe not battered black and blue but pure aggression and hatred pinning you up against the wall.. Threatening you. She ended up getting pregnant actually and she didn't keep it with his arrangement that was then when she started drinking heavily!! But he was always smoking hashish daily as did my ex as does 90% of the bloody place!! Seriously you may not believe me.. But I urge you to walk away.. I am not even sticking up for my friend as to be honest she did go a little crazy and I no longer actually speak to her much..

But I know for sure he does as he asked her for a camera as he wanted to go back to photography!! He also begs her to go back over to him.. She found many other women he contacts online and sends pictures back and forth!! Believe me they all know the right words the right gestures and no matter how special they try and make you feel I am afraid you will be one of many.. They are fine tuned to lie and deceive and none of us will ever make then change!! I wasted years thinking mine was different only left to be now picking up the pieces.. And I fear you will carry on regards less even though you must read these stories and alarm bells must ring if not now they most certainly will in the future.!! Our lives are not meant to be with these kind of men.. Unless of course you want to be told what to wear who you can talk to, where you can go, what religion your children will be, that the man is always right.. Ask permission to go anywhere.. No male friends at all!!! No freedom at all.. I guarantee you that is what your life will become in only a matter of months!! If you are willing I accept this please be my guest.. If you want a normal life then walk away now and don't look back.. It's much easier to walk now than realise in a years time!! Good luck..

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