Closure!!

Submitted by Kristain (United Kingdom), Aug 26, 2013 at 16:08

The way you describe your feelings, and how this man has effected you mentally and physically, i can completely relate to? Without going into details, i had a 5 year relationship on and off with a Egyptian Man, it started online, and from the start he lied to me, claiming to be a single man, after 2 years i found out he was married with a child, i had suspected this for some time, but whenever i questioned or said i didnt believe him , he would tell me that if i didnt trust him then the relationship was over. I found myself at the time apologising and he very cleverly won me over? He was married, but by the time i knew for sure, i was in love with him, and he had full control over me. For years after that he continued to tell me he was unhappy in his marriage and getting a devorce? The devorce never happened, and more children were born with his wife? I broke up with him many times coz i didnt believe his storys, during which time his wife would become pregnant?? He destroyed my spirit, i dont think i ever cryed so much, my heart was constantly broke, i stayed away for many months, but he would come back with sorrys and broken promises, my trust in him was zero, i didnt respect him, sometimes i loathed him, for insulting my intelligence, when he would look me in the eye and lie, the most ridiculous lies, and he wondered why i wouldnt believe him? He never understood why i would actually be hurt by his actions, he would say lets forget that now, and move on like nothing happened?

Anyway more recently i discovered not only does he have a wife still, but he has another lover, a woman he now works with in a hotel in sharm el sheikh. I suspected there was someone else, but he denied it, and with a little investigation, i found her, he had obviously started this relationship with her whilst he was still with me, which is the only reason i am angry, because i gave him the chance to be HONEST lol, but he denied anyone else, still making plans with me for the future and the usual boring lies, that i had got so used to hearing! I recently saw that he taken this woman to all the places he had taken me, places that he claimed were special to us?? ( Well lets face it, hes not going to take her home to meet his mother and wife is he?) I was angry to see that he had done that, so soon. I am not jealous or wanting revenge from this woman, as i believe she has fallen for his charm, and has no idea what she is getting herself into, as i didnt. I contacted her after discussing with my friends and family, weather i should make her aware?? But he has obviously worked his magic slime on her, because she doesnt want to know? Ive had no reply, so it seems he has won her over, maybe by telling her i am mad or in the past? I invested a lot of time with that predator, and spent a lot of money travelling back and forth to Egypt, but at least i didnt take things to another level and marry the bastard, or give up my home, or even get him over here? Which is all that he wants, and he wont stop till he achieves that!

His wife contacted me some time ago to tell me that he wanted her to be in on a scam to make me believe that they were divorcing, so that he would marry me, and then return and remarry her later after he had established himself in the uk?? She explained that she was unhappy to doing that, but she said she had no choice? The bastard had cheated on her all through their marriage, with many women, but he always returned to her, promising her great rewards if she went along with his plans? when i confronted him about this he called her a liar, and said she was jealous, probably what he is saying about me to his new lover?? My point is that he has a power, to make people believe him, he is extremely professional.

I sat at the pool one day in egypt and watched him parade himself around friends we had met, they were smitten by him, Mr Nice Guy, everyones friend, smooth, and very very Clever!! His name was Tamer Hassan, originally from Alexandria, now working in Sharm!! The pain of betrayal and deciet has made me ill, and i beat myself up for being so stupid for so long, but one thing i know for sure now, is that i will never have to see that man again, yes maybe i should have kept my investigations to myself and not contacting this new woman of his, i just thought that maybe she might be grateful and run, but i was wrong?

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