To candy eyes..

Submitted by Becs (United Kingdom), Jul 23, 2013 at 04:01

I see your comment to luigi and obviously past posts and you keep referring to us women as if we are old and gullible and not strong enough to cope!! You mention you live in a multicultural area.. Most if the uk is now so that's irrelevant and you are right you should not be judgemental but equally you should not be judgmental against women on this site!! I agree the ones with massive age gaps or the ones who give money to men they have never met I do find questionable.. But there are others like myself same age who have met and fallen in love and even lived their lives in thei country.. I too never thought I would be sucked in.. But when you are in love (if you have ever been) with an English a German a Muslim who ever you make sacrifices and compromises.. This is normal.. My point is with Muslim men they want more and more over time.. They chip away slowly.. Before you know it you are changing too much about yourself.. Yes you may be strong and can walk away.. But unless you have no heart or compassion.. You will hurt if you grow genuine feelings for him as if you walk away from any relationship it is hard and hurts like hell...

So I would ask you to consider other people when making judgements.. We are not desperate women just looking for a relationship which ultimately may or may not work for whatever reason.. As luigi or others state.. May not be for money, sex or visa they want.. But the love they give us is different it is one sided.. They do not compromise they will just expect you to change but if your happy as you already said to delete men from Facebook and not go out with any or even speak to some men if they deem that as disrespectful then you will probably be fine.. If he is so great and you are so strong minded and all the rest.. Then my question is what did you come on here for as it would seem you don't listen or take anybody's comments on board.. So wish you well in your future maybe you will be one who willingly changes her ways over time and eventually you will convert and that's your choice... But ultimately some are hurt and have broken hearts me included.. And we are not light switches that can just turn off emotion.

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