To Chezzer76

Submitted by Becs (United Kingdom), Jul 17, 2013 at 06:41

Hi I felt the need to reply to your post as I am only 32 and not some old desperate woman who is handing money out to some scammer.. So I wanted to give you an insight.. I met him on holiday, I feel I am not old there is only a few years difference between us as he is 27. I have no money and nothing he could gain and know then and even now that he was not scamming me for anything..

The cultural and religious differences is what drove me away.. I could write for hours what I went through.. The changes I saw in him over 2 years.. He went from Prince Charming telling me everything I wanted to hear and buy me everything I never had to spend my own money life was amazing.. But slowly but surely you get sucked in.. Your confidence is sucked out of you, they have double standards.. I had to tell him every move I made, not allowed to talk to other men, no male friends etc.. The clothes you wear.. Really the list is endless..

I am not a woman scorned maybe your man will be different.. But they rarely are.. It's a male dominant culture.. Simple and neither you or I will ever change years of what is embedded.. I had to leave as I was changing to much.. Becoming a different me.. He became aggressive but never apologised as this is normal.. He never hit me but shouted swearing and grabbing was enough.. The emotions are high and low and believe me and all the women on here.. Once you are involved it is not easy to walk away and I think you are naive if you think that is the case.. I don't mean to be rude but if you have emotion and feeling you are crazy if you think you can just cut all ties.. It's what makes us human.. I lived in Egypt involved 100% in their culture unlike most on here.. Most don't see the true colours until its too late as their relationship is based online chats.. So once you are involved you will see.. If you are happy with your choices then get on with your life and you don't need this site.. Just be armed with the information and knowing they may not be wanting to scam for visa or marriage.

But be aware ultimately they love western women but they will try to change you over time and if you want children 100% they will have to be Muslim so if you are happy with all that control and children being Muslim then feel free to carry on.. Some relationships do work.. But they are few and far between and usually only work as the woman changes.. I saw it many times.. The women I had as friends.. No longer drank, wore long clothes, no bikini at the beach, not so much socialising.. If course these things didn't happen at day one.

And like me at the beginning they were told "I would never change you.. I love you for you.." But eventually they do. I saw strong women sat home all day cleaning cooking scared to go out.. But this happened over 2-3 years and they never saw it coming.

And one friend can't leave Egypt as she is married and her husband won't give her permission.. This is the law there.. The same with children the men have the rights.. So please think carefully about what you are getting involved with.. It's a hard life really it is take it from someone who has lived it..

Good luck..:-)

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