To Isis

Submitted by Lilia (Russia), Jun 9, 2013 at 06:35

Hi, Isis. First of all, why are you saying that to meet someone online is a bad thing? When people work a lot and don't have much free time it's not easy to meet someone out of their work circle. That's why there are a lot of dating sites and there are speed dating evenings hosted in big cities. I personally know the couples who met online and had serious relationship, some of them got married after it.

Second of all, why are saying that I take no blame how my story ended? Of course I know my mistakes. I didn't expect that guy to play me because there was NO POINT. I contacted him first, because I wanted to hang out. I talked to him on skype for some period of time before going to USA. He seemed fun easy going and nice. He had a job, I saw where he lived during videocall. And he didn't look like maniac. That's all I cared about. I know that I should have been more careful because I didn't know much about him, but I wasn't searching for love of my life. And I fell in love after we have spent some time together. I was too relaxed during my vacation and let it get in me. But as I told on my story there was no point of playing me and emotionally abuse me. He obviously didn't need visa from me, lol. He never asked for money, I can't imagine giving to him any. And I wasn't against some fling. There was no point of sweet talking and brainwashing to get what he got. Just after I left he would message me constantly "You like me or it's something more?", "Do you love me?". It was his selfish and possessive side, I guess.

So the message of my story was that women should never take this kind of men serious even if they don't see the profit these men can get from them. And even when it seems there is no point of lying the lying will appear. So women should be very careful when they deal with these men, if they don't want to be hurt. I've learned it out with this experience, that's it.

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