Forget him: dating, marriage

Submitted by Lina (United Kingdom), May 20, 2013 at 20:59

Sound advice from Luigi on this one. From what I can gather the guy is looking to either convert you to Islam, or use you for intimacy. Perhaps even both. He will probably need to marry you in either case. Muslim men generally don't marry women that they meet in nightclubs, save for some ultra modern North Africans, and definitely not Saudis. Nor do they waste time on dates unless there's some ulterior motive. I'd also be willing to bet that he never told his dad about you guys. It's so easy to make a girl feel loved and respected, even if it's hot air. Believe me I've heard that line before. So if you don't mind slowly converting into an obedient housewife then by all means go for it. If not I'd just use him for fun.

The trouble is, a lot of women (especially from dysfunctional backgrounds, or those who are insecure) mistake controlling behaviour for love and care when it's anything but. It's about keeping you in your place. Add good looks into the mix and it seems like the ideal setup

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