A big NO

Submitted by Michael (Germany), Apr 15, 2013 at 04:32

Whether non-Muslims can marry a Muslim? Is it advisable to do that? My opinion is a big NO

According to Koran Muslims are not supposed to have friends among the Jews & Christians but Muslim men can marry Christians & Jews. So a religious Muslim, marrying a Christian or Jewish women is not violating his religious code. The child/ren born to a Muslim male is automatically a Muslim. Whatever the non-Muslim spouse say or do with her child's religion, the child is technically a Muslim period. Most of the women in the western country don't understand this. Woman can discuss with her Muslim spouse about the future of their Child/ren's religion as being non-Muslim prior to their marriage or prior to the birth of their child but it doesn't matter as according to the Sharia the child/ren is/are Muslims. The child/ren will be deemed as apostates if they choose any other religion apart from Islam.

These are the hard facts. In Muslim societies 'honor' is totally on the women's shoulders. The same men who wants to marry non-Muslim women will kill their sisters or their female relatives if those ladies want to marry non-Muslim men. Islam is a Man's world as some one mentioned in this thread. So a non-Muslim women, in this case western women marrying a Muslim, means that she has a big burden of bearing the 'honor' of the family, which is something not easy to understand by people from a modern society. Straight-Talk-Luigi said so many valid points which are 100% true & I can't agree with him more but the topic of discussion here is, non-Muslim women dating Muslim men whether its online or in person. I wish he wrote specifically more about this topic.

As there are so many immigrants from Muslim countries in Europe, U.S.A, Canada, Australia etc. its easy for a non-Muslim woman to meet a Muslim man & that may eventually turn into love & marriage. Even after many years of staying in Western countries most of the Muslims are outwardly Islamic or sometimes covertly Islamic. As an Indian studying in Germany, I have met many Muslims who appear to be western & modern outside, but are still firm believers of their backward rules & beliefs which is in direct contradiction with western culture & belief of freedom & individuality.

Some of the Muslims from North - Africa & Levant appear to be modern compared to the Talibans(as they don't have henna colored beard, turban or wear their trousers till ankle), that's due to the Influence of western colonial rule in their respective countries, but still inside a Muslim is a Muslim when it comes to his beliefs, unless he leaves his faith & becomes an apostate.

Why western women fall for Muslim men sometimes?

First & foremost westerners with an exception of a few have no idea about Islam & how it controls the mind of Muslims. All the wonderful principles like brotherhood, charity, etc. in Koran applies only for a Muslim to his/her fellow Muslim not to non-Muslims. So when it comes to a non-Muslim the attitude of a Muslim towards a non-Muslim is entirely different. Islam is not in the league of Buddhism, Hinduism or any non-Muslim religious ideologies. A seemingly modern western looking Muslim can turn religious at any point of time in his life which is what happening with the Muslims in western countries & the seemingly modern, educated & western looking men involving in terrorism is appalling. The attention women get from a non-Western Muslim man may be more or different compared to what a western man gives but these are all temporary as it happens in every courtship. Once a non-Muslim woman surrenders to a Muslim man's charm her freedom will be lost stage by stage. For a Muslim woman this typical Muslim male behavior is normal & she is conditioned from her childhood watching the gender dynamics played in her family but not for a non-Muslim woman. Whether non-Muslims can marry a Muslim? Is it advisable to do that? My opinion is a big NO

Women please don't be fooled by any Muslim man's charm. There are lot of stories of tragedy in internet told be western women after getting married to Muslim men. Yes love is important & it's a sine qua non for a happy marriage. But its not everything . There must be compatibility & upon that respect as a person. Muslims see people as Muslims & non-Muslims first. Islam is not just a religion it instructs the Muslims how to carry out each & everything in their day to day life.

What all I have said is about the problems a non-Muslim western woman would likely face when she marries a Muslim man even if they were dating in real let alone online-dating. Also this involves even when a non-Muslim western woman dates a western man who is a converted Muslim.

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